Question for people who aren’t awkward

Where are you supposed to look when you’re returning from your turn while bowling? Do you make eye contact with the table full of people who just watched you throw another ball into the gutter, or do you avert your eyes and look anywhere else while you shuffle back to your seat?

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orioninthenight · M

The answer to this question is actually wherever you want.

But in order for you to understand this you need to realize that the difference between awkward and non awkward people is that non awkward people are not directing their attention about themselves as much. Non awkward people are focusing on everything else except for themselves. So in order for you to not be awkward you must force yourself to pay attention and all your attention to your surroundings. Get lost in noticing the details of other peoples reactions when you finish bowling. Notice the sounds and think deeply about what other people are doing.

If you focus intensely enough on what is outside of you, awkwardness goes away entirely because you are too lost in noticing your surroundings.

I used to be awkward myself. It took me 40 years to know how not to be and I am describing how here.

So the answer is look anywhere you want but the real answer is everything else I said.

itsok · 31-35, F

@orioninthenight my anxiety has me focusing intensely and I’m still awkward. but nice lengthy reply