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Do you believe someone owes you an apology?

Do you think they know they owe you said apology?

Do you think they'll ever give you that apology?

Do they still talk to you or are they hiding silently somewhere like a coward hoping you'll forget their behavior?

Have you ever entertained the thought you might be the one who's wrong?
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nobodyishome · 31-35, F
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
I try very hard not to think that way especially if it was a very long time ago because it just drives me crazy and makes me very bitter.
So yes in the past I probably thought all those things but life's too short to live that way for me.
I do think about if I was wrong or not ,
,what part I played in the disagreement, and if there is something I can do to make it better.
Sometimes there isn't and frankly sometimes they probably do owe me an apology ,but since I can't force anyone to apologize to me I don't want to spend my life expecting it.
LadyBronte · 61-69, F
@Justmeraeagain That's probably a good thing because we definitely know some of those apologies will never happen.
JeNeSaisPas · 51-55, F
Nope. Some, however I owe a good shanking.
Birdbox1986 · 31-35, F
Society does
LadyBronte · 61-69, F
@Birdbox1986 The entirity of society owes you an apology? 🤔
Birdbox1986 · 31-35, F
@LadyBronte yes, they do
LadyBronte · 61-69, F
@Birdbox1986 I am included in society - that totality of people everywhere - and don't owe you any apologies for anything. 🤷🏼‍♀
thechik96 · 31-35, F
No one owes anyone shit opinions and actions regardless of right or wrong are based on perspective
LadyBronte · 61-69, F
@thechik96 We can agree to disagree. Some things people do to others are shitty from any perspective.
Boeing · 36-40
None owes anyone anything... But I am open to receiving apologies why not 😎
LadyBronte · 61-69, F
@Boeing You and I can disagree on that. I do believe people often owe an apology. I have owed them, myself and have always tried to give them.
🤷🏼‍♀
Recently, I found out someone apologized to me several years ago, and I never knew because I was maintaining zero contact at that time.

I'm glad I never saw that apology. It came with a price I wouldn't have been able to pay at the time.

I entertained the thought many times that I was wrong - in the company of several psychologists and therapists.

It turns out I wasn't wrong. Sometimes I wish I was the one who was wrong. It would be easier to process it all.
LadyBronte · 61-69, F
@Magicianzini Interesting. Perhaps finding it later did help in some small way? I'm sorry you went through that.
Nightwings · F
I do think that if we wrong someone, we should apologize. I know some people who definitely owe me an apology but I won't get that from them as they won't even acknowledge what happened, so it's whatever. I don't think much about it if someone wrongs me, but I do think about how I impact others. In the end of the day I just want my life to be peaceful, and I want to contribute to other people's peace too. {=
LadyBronte · 61-69, F
I agree thay we should. And yes,there are times they won't acknowledge ...they don't realize...they realize but it's over shadowed by too much pride...they just don't care what damage they've created.... So many reasons. No peace in any of them. All we can do, is to do our best to be better when the shoe is on the other foot. 🤷🏼‍♀
MrSmartyPants · 46-50, M
No, happy to say none of that applies to me!!
LadyBronte · 61-69, F
HikingMan · 56-60, M
There are a few apologies out there that I'll never get.
I've made a few apologies that were never accepted.

I'm learning to be fine with all of that.

I automatically think I'm wrong.
It's easier to explain that to myself.
LadyBronte · 61-69, F
@HikingMan I feel like that first paragraph could apply to nearly everyone at some point. But I hate it that you always accept blame where there is none. That is a heavy burden.
HikingMan · 56-60, M
@LadyBronte You and I have been friends for what seems like forever now. You've always been extremely kind to me, and you have no idea how thankful I am for our hundreds upon hundreds of interactions over the years.

I've come a long way and have gone through all kinds of stuff since we first met and I know that you know that I've struggled with my boundaries and my peace over those years

These days I feel much more relaxed. Perhaps not to be considered Well Regulated, but definitely more peaceful.

My assumptions of being at fault does serve a purpose and I recognize it more readily than I used to.
I can assume that I am wrong and not beat myself up for it anymore and that's huge.

I have love for you and for all we've shared over the years and I'm so very thankful that we've been friends all this time.

You're the best you that I could have ever hoped for.

Peace,
Rob
chasingMonday · 41-45, M
Yeah but it’s too late now
LadyBronte · 61-69, F
@chasingMonday Yeah. There is certainly a time when it's just too late!
chasingMonday · 41-45, M
@LadyBronte makes me sad that it got to this point though
LadyBronte · 61-69, F
Magenta · F
No not really. I don't think I'm owed much.
No-one is innocent or perfect. No-one gets everything right.


Of course I've entertained that. I know I've been wrong in my behavior..
LadyBronte · 61-69, F
@Magenta Nope, no one gets it right all thw time. We've all been in the wrong at some point. 🤷🏼‍♀
Miram · 31-35, F
Just wondering who voted this down? The thumb down.

Which one of you sore losers felt called out?
LadyBronte · 61-69, F
@Miram Laughs. Thanks for letting me know. I hadn't noticed the downvote but that's what the button is there for. Anyway, I can see who it was. Turns out it was no one I've ever had contact with so I guess they found my question offensive.
🤷🏼‍♀😅
Ann99 · 41-45, F
So far nothing like that has happened to me that would make me feel someone owes me an apology because I usually don’t give people the chance to treat me that way
LadyBronte · 61-69, F
@Ann99 That's good then.
GoFish · 41-45, F
no i don't think that way. if i think they are out of line i'll tell them to their face if i'm on speaking terms with them otherwise F em and forget em.. i don't sulk bitterly like that it's an unhealthy toxic vibe
LadyBronte · 61-69, F
@GoFish To each their own.
GoFish · 41-45, F
I don't know. Likely not. I see that and realize people don't usually reflect enough to realize they could apologize and repair things.
LadyBronte · 61-69, F
@EldritchFox I agree! Most of us arwnt likely to get the apologies we deserve for whatever reason. Sadly really when some things could be repaired.
Apologies or not ...they don't mean anything without changed behavior
LadyBronte · 61-69, F
@Chern0bylplaygr0unds That I agree with 100%.
Yes, there are a few who do, but I don’t dwell on it. Apologies mean nothing if the behaviour never changes. When you see someone repeating the exact same patterns they did a decade ago, their apology is just smoke and mirrors.
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
A damn list of people, but I've moved past it. Apologies really do nothing for me.

 
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