How would you define a genuinely nice person?

I would not say that most people are genuinely nice. I would say that most people act nice when they are first getting to know you or if they want to impress you for some reason. Then as soon as you say or do something they don't like, they turn on you pretty quickly.

People who are willing to look past your obvious flaws and problems and who still want to befriend you in spite of those things. That to me is a genuinely nice person.

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ViciDraco · 36-40, M

Genuinely nice tends to be subjective because usually a person's kindness is related to which social circles they consider people to be in.

Most people are genuinely nice to family and close friends. These are groups of people that we are generally willing to spend more effort upon to ensure their health and happiness.

As you get further away from those circles, people generally are spending less effort taking care of you. Partially because you are not as close and partially because those circles are larger and people lack the energy to spend the same amount on everyone.

When we look at people and consider them kind or genuinely nice, we are usually looking at how many circles out they are casting their willingness to spend energy and effort on people. The more circles out, the more people tend to consider them nice.