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Don’t be afraid to be disliked.

You are responsible only for your own tasks in life. The infringement on other people’s tasks, or the infringement of your tasks by them is the cause of all interpersonal relationship problems.

You connect with someone when two people can take care of their own tasks independently and share that with each other. Entanglement is when two people try to impose their will on each other’s tasks instead of taking responsibility for their own. That causes every problem you’ll ever have with others.

What other people think about you. The judgments or conclusions they draw. However they treat you. These are not your tasks. That’s on them and their problem entirely. There is no benefit, actually there’s only detriment, to worrying about other peoples tasks. To do so is to invite every conceivable misfortune upon your relationships.

So again, don’t be afraid to be disliked. If you’re focused on your own tasks, that’s not your fault. However, if you are scared of being disliked, that is what makes you concern yourself with others tasks and your fears become a self fulfilling prophecy. You will be guilty for your own condition.
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being · 36-40, F
these words hit home.. I'm going to one side, being responsible for myself and then going to the other side, allowing myself to rely on anything outside of myself.
In a kind world, in a world I'd love to be creating, we wouldn't have to worry about entanglement, because it would only be relating, supporting. How we phrase situations has an impact too..
Reject · 26-30, M
@being We can only do our part for ourselves and hopefully find others who, as you said, can support or relate to that. Then you can do the same for them ensuring it is a healthy connection. The great thing about being responsible for yourself is that you’re very aware of and able to protect yourself from those who can’t respect that and threaten entanglement with you.
being · 36-40, F
@Reject we can also support and be there for another
Reject · 26-30, M
@being Absolutely! But only when we are taken care of by ourselves first. Otherwise we’ll do more harm than good.