I Am Afraid of Rejection

I wish I wasn’t because it prevents me from being myself. I have come across many situations where I want to help others but the fear of being rejected or even talking to them has stopped me. I remember one time an old lady looked cold sorting on a bench outside. My natural instinct was to want to give her my jacket off my back but I was too scared to. Another time I was in the check out lane of a store and the cashier was crying. I wanted to ask her if shes ok and let her know I didn’t know what was wrong but I prayed for her but I was afraid she’d tell me to mind my business or something. I want so much to be the person God made me because I think I’m different in that way. I know fear comes from the devil and I know I have to overcome the fear and discourage he is causing me to feel. I will get there one day.

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acpguy · C

Son't take this wrong but are you a democrat / liberal? I find that people your age are usually liberals and have no guts, respect for others, lack initiative and thoughtfulness. If you are try studying history, the things that actually took place during the Revolutionary War, Civil War, WWI, WWII and the Depression. Watch old movies made prior to 1970 including the old westerns. You have been taught by the liberal education system that does not teach true history nor does it teach you how to lose nor the importance of winning. People of your age lack a lot of fortitude.

Miracle23 · 26-30, F

Haha wow. “Don’t take this the wrong way but...” then proceeds to judge and attack me. Sweetheart, you don’t know the first thing about me so don’t even try it. I’m sorry but you sound so stupid. No I am not a democrat nor am I a liberal. I personally could care less about politics. My age has nothing to do with my fear of rejection, nor do you know what I have and have not been taught. I am probably the most caring, take action person you will ever meet. I have changed a homeless persons life just by showing that I care, and introducing him to God. I went out and bought this man food, a bible, and wrote him a 3 page letter when I didn’t have to JUST because I cared and I wanted him to know someone loves him. I have helped and cared for and prayed for people who have abused me. I have forgoven and helped amd stood up for a lot of people and was glad to do it, but you have no idea how my life began. I was a child sex slave until the age of 10. I didn’t know who I was or how to adapt to the world when I came out of it and I was afraid of people. I may be 24 years old now but a tough life like that doesn’t just go away overnight. I still have scars from it and I still have struggles from it, one of which is being afraid of people and being rejected again. No one wanted me. No one wanted to play with me. No one said “i forgive you” when I was forced to apologize for something I didn’t even do and got raped over. No one said “i love you” back when I would say it. Do you know what that does to a 5-10 year old girl? You don’t know me or my story so don’t act like you know me because I have been through so much and I am proud of where I am today. I know that just like you and everyone else in the world I am not complete. I still have a lot of growing to do and a lot of changes to make but I am on my way and what you’ve learned, your age, or your political views have nothing to do with it@acpguy

acpguy · C

@Miracle23 WRONG AGAIN. You do need to care about politics and vote, that basically shows you are apathetic and as I said "lack initiative and thoughtfulness". Lots of people have "rough life" but they do something about it if they have "guts". It takes common sense and willingness to make a change rather than stay in the same rut mentally and physically. You really do resemble a liberal as I stated and you proved it all over again despite your claim to be neither party persuasion.

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Miracle23 · 26-30, F

😳 wow, do you need your brain examined? Seriously? You cannot tell me I am a liberal when I am telling you I don’t care about politics so I am neither. And you cannot tell me to be a caring person you need to care about politics, that just doesn’t make any sense. And you best believe I have never used my tough life as an excuse for anything. Like I said before, I am proud of where I am today. I HAVE made progress despite what you think you know about me and I will continue to make progress. This post is about being afraid of rejection. A LOT of people are afraid of rejection that’s actually a pretty common fear and has nothing to do with not caring about others. If I didn’t care about others I would not care about doing all the things I mentioned in my post. I would not have cared about the homeless man I helped out. I would not have accepted God’s calling to be a pastor and help people even though they have never helped me. I would not cry for strangers who are getting murdered in school shootings and every day violence while everybody else is walking around saying “these things happen” and “well, I’m glad it wasn’t anyone I know.” Spreading hate that “this was an inside job” disrespecting families who have in reality really lost loved ones, or focusing soley on how they wanna keep guns around instead of the victims.I would not have gotten free IHOP breakfast coupons and given them to homeless people instead just so they could have something to eat. Stop trying to tell me who I am because you know nothing about me. A common fear that I have, and am working to overcome has nothing to do with how caring I am. And you can stop trying to act like you have no fears or struggles, like you’re so much higher than everyone else and know what’s going on because you honestly are only embarrassing yourself. You honestly sound crazy. No hate intended, no judgement intended but sweetheart, get a grip, you make no sense. People have different interests and for me, politics just is not one of them. If you disagree with how I don’t care about politics fine, but guess what? You are not me and I am not you. I have my own views and beliefs and interests and there is nothing wrong with that. I say it all the time, one of the first things we’re all taught when we’re kids is that everyone is different and you should love and respect them anyway. Then we grow up and forget all that, bashing anyone who is not like we are and it is not ok. Again, I am probably the most caring person you will ever come across in your life. I do not have an interest in politics or voting. I believe in God wholeheartedly. Some people may not be all that caring. They may be a liberal, and they may not be that close to God or even believe in him at all. All kinds of people exist and just because they are not like you doesn’t mean its wrong. If I were to say that Christianity is the only real religion I would get so much hate replies because not everyone believes that. I personally believe that because I KNOW God is real. Would I ever disrespect an atheist by saying they do not care about other people and judge them and act like I know them because they haven’t found God yet. No.

acpguy · C

Like a liberal you spew a lot of nothing in defense of yourself. You might state that you are not a liberal, I just stated you act and have the attributes of one. Sorry but you are a waste of my time.

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Miracle23 · 26-30, F

First of all, I’m not spewing a whole bunch of nothing about myself. This is more than about me, this is about you realizing that you cannot judge people because they don’t have the same views as you. But you obviously have some sort of issue with liberals if you’re trying to attack me because you think I’m one. I am a pastor, it is in my nature to try to help people but I see that I cannot help you. You are too hatedul and judgemental so you only see things your way even if it makes no sense. You say I’m a waste of your time but here you are reading my posts, commenting on it and continuing to do so, so who’s really wasting who’s time. I guess you can’t save them all. I hope one day you save yourself because that is a horrible way for you to live. I will not be replying to your nonsense anymore so don’t bother writing back. If you do I will block you. If you continue to harass me I will report you. Simple as that. @acpguy