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I Am Afraid of Rejection

I wish I wasn’t because it prevents me from being myself. I have come across many situations where I want to help others but the fear of being rejected or even talking to them has stopped me. I remember one time an old lady looked cold sorting on a bench outside. My natural instinct was to want to give her my jacket off my back but I was too scared to. Another time I was in the check out lane of a store and the cashier was crying. I wanted to ask her if shes ok and let her know I didn’t know what was wrong but I prayed for her but I was afraid she’d tell me to mind my business or something. I want so much to be the person God made me because I think I’m different in that way. I know fear comes from the devil and I know I have to overcome the fear and discourage he is causing me to feel. I will get there one day.
Something I finally learned not many years ago - for me, that fear wasn't fear of rejection, but vanity.

I didn't want to look stupid.

What caused me to realize that was when my husband of less than a year had what we thought was the flu but turned out to be a malignant brain tumor. I handled it - until I went to Walmart to get some things for him and suddenly I was overwhelmed. Tears poured down my face while I chose underwear and robe and books for him...

I wept all the way through Walmart and not one single soul - and it was busy - took the time or the courage to say, "Are you okay?" They couldn't have helped, probably, but I was stunned that of - what - 150 people? - not ONE cared enough to ask.

I determined then that I WOULD ask when I thought I saw need and if they told me to get lost, well, I'd get lost.
JP1119 · 36-40, M
It’s not unreasonable to ask someone if they’re okay when you see them crying. If they tell you to mind your own business, well they’re probably insecure somehow so just drop it. I mean, it’s not like you’ve lost anything or hurt anyone by offering to help. Especially if it’s a stranger you’re probably never going to see or recognize again anyway.
acpguy · C
Son't take this wrong but are you a democrat / liberal? I find that people your age are usually liberals and have no guts, respect for others, lack initiative and thoughtfulness. If you are try studying history, the things that actually took place during the Revolutionary War, Civil War, WWI, WWII and the Depression. Watch old movies made prior to 1970 including the old westerns. You have been taught by the liberal education system that does not teach true history nor does it teach you how to lose nor the importance of winning. People of your age lack a lot of fortitude.
acpguy · C
Like a liberal you spew a lot of nothing in defense of yourself. You might state that you are not a liberal, I just stated you act and have the attributes of one. Sorry but you are a waste of my time.
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Miracle23 · 26-30, F
First of all, I’m not spewing a whole bunch of nothing about myself. This is more than about me, this is about you realizing that you cannot judge people because they don’t have the same views as you. But you obviously have some sort of issue with liberals if you’re trying to attack me because you think I’m one. I am a pastor, it is in my nature to try to help people but I see that I cannot help you. You are too hatedul and judgemental so you only see things your way even if it makes no sense. You say I’m a waste of your time but here you are reading my posts, commenting on it and continuing to do so, so who’s really wasting who’s time. I guess you can’t save them all. I hope one day you save yourself because that is a horrible way for you to live. I will not be replying to your nonsense anymore so don’t bother writing back. If you do I will block you. If you continue to harass me I will report you. Simple as that. @acpguy
lovingdead · 31-35, M
The biggest issue here (in my opinion) you are rejecting yourself, your mind, your heart, your soul....whatever you attribute your "you-ness" to. Accept it, be it, love it. Tell the person in the mirror you accept them and will try your best to help them be themselves.

 
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