I Am Afraid of Rejection

I'm afraid she will reject me. Say no and turn away never to see me again. I don't want to scare her away with what I have to say. I don't want her to break my heart. I'm afraid I won't be able to pick up the pieces once they fall. I have to ask her. Its something I must do. I pray she doesn't reject me. I'm so scared my body trembles just thinking about the question that's been pressing on my mind. *Will you be my girlfriend?* Now I just need to say it out loud and to her. I don't have the best of luck and nothing ever goes well for me. But I would be a fool to wait, right? Right?

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businessdriven

I would like you to visualize the vastness and complexity of life itself, and in contrast, visualize how insignificant this experience (getting her validation) would pale in comparison to your life. The key distortion here (catastrophizing) is that her rejection or acceptance of you would take precedence over the value and purpose of your life. A rejection is none other than an experience that you consciously observe. But, it is not you.

Strengthen your self-image in a way that you stop identifying who you are with what happens around you. You cannot find yourself in the content of her validation. But, you can find yourself by looking within and restructuring your thoughts to reflect the infinite being you really are.