How would you suggest handling a man or relationship with a man who isn't used to thinking about how his words and actions might make another person..

@Souls It's not that bad. He's a nice guy in general. He hasn't been in a relationship in years is all. He's not a bad person.

That he hasn’t been in a relationship in many years has nothing to do with knowing how to be a considerate person. That’s a life skill that comes up in many forms during our day-to-day life every time we interact with somebody, but especially if there are long term interactions like long end time friendships and family. If they don’t have any long term connections like that it’s a huge red flag that they are not as nice as you want to believe they are. @perceptivei

@WhateverWorks You're 100% right! BUT, I definitely worded this question incorrectly. He's not like the guy i must have described when writing this question. He's one of the nicest guys I've ever liked. And, it's just little things... he feels really bad when he realizes his actions might have hurt me. He hasn't been in a relationship in awhile and hasn't had to think about how some of his actions might make me feel. So, far it's only been something small here and there... nothing big. One of them was just sexual. And, he apologized. I should rewrite this question.

@WhateverWorks He is NOT a red flag type of guy. I really worded this wrong. I meant, he's the type of guy who hasn't been in a relationship in a long time, so he doesn't think about how certain actions would make me feel.

Like I said, being considerate of others isn’t a romantic thing. Every time we interact with somebody we are practicing being considerate or not. That he hasn’t been in a romantic relationship in a long time is more of an indicator that this issue with him not understanding how to be considerate of others has been an ongoing problem and him maintaining romantic relationships, not the other way around where he just hasn’t had somebody to be considerate of.

No matter how nice he may seem more apologetic he may seem, the biggest red flag to watch out for is if you’ve attempted to communicate with him repeatedly about similar behaviors, yet they persist. Doesn’t matter if he has a new excuse, including that he was unaware that what he did was inconsiderate —- because he’s not unaware. You know he’s not unaware because you’ve already attempted to communicate with him about this abcd on several occasions. Being inconsiderate of others doesn’t always look like being a jerk afterwards. A lot of people are ‘nice’ and live inconsiderately at the same time.

@perceptivei

@WhateverWorks That makes sense. Well, now that he knows how I feel (because I did communicate my feelings), it shouldn't happen again... not like it did. It hasn't happened twice yet.

The important thing is that once you communicate something they are receptive and make continuous effort to not do the thing anymore, so that is very good sign @perceptivei

@perceptivei You seem like you're in denial but proceed I will mind my business I wish you the best!

@Souls Thank you for your support