Is it wrong to look at another person

I have a partner that I would never hurt so I have a question. There is a guy works in the produce section of a local grocery store. I go in there when I know he is in and purchase fruit items. I always look at him and speak to him. He is very attractive, neat, clean looking and about my age. I have known my partner for going on 6 years been living together for about half that time, and would never do anything to hurt him. The produce guy is the first person I have ever looked at as someone I would like to be with. I have never said a word to my partner about him and have no intention of doing so. Is it wrong for me to feel this way?

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Ynotisay · M

I'm not sure there's anything inherently "wrong" with what we feel unless it ends up harming others. Not saying you're doing this but I do think if someone is "lusting' after some one else then that has the potential to impact your thoughts about your current partner. It's easy to compare. Particularly in a long-term relationship. Shiny, new things are exciting. But finding someone attractive is different than feeling like you'd want to be with the person, you know?

Shannon27 · M

@Ynotisay My current partner and I have so much in common it would be hard to find another one that way. Also my current partner is a very compassionate person, so loving and so caring. When we met it was at least 3 months before we kissed even and probably twice that long before we engaged in intercourse. We wanted to make sure we were right for each other before we became deeply involved. When we have intercourse I never think of anyone but my current partner and I am not really interested in a one night stand. If that is what one is looking for you go to a bar and pick up another guy which I have absolutely no interest in.

Ynotisay · M

@Shannon27 It sounds like you appreciate what you have. And that's when the "real" happens. SO much more there than in anything you can find in passing. 👍

Shannon27 · M

@Ynotisay Thanks for the advice. I think right now I will go to my partner and discreetly let him know how much I like him.

Ynotisay · M

@Shannon27 I think that's a very kind and very loving move. Right on.