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A study of the root causes of exhibitionism.

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I’m curious about when you first felt the need to be seen by others? And when it ended, if it did. I’m interested in the age and the reasons. Nothing happens for no reason. I’m trying to find the roots of this deviation. This is my professional interest. I want to compare it with my own experience and the experience of those I’ve already discussed this issue with. I need statistical data for analysis.
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Discovered mine unintentionally... but when it happened I found I liked seeing the effect I had as a result of what I was doing. It created kind of a erotic feedback loop in a way that I knew watching me was making them increasingly excited, and were visibly affected by watching me. Which fed back into my own pleasure and made it more arousing for me; heightening my own excitement in the moment. Which then gets the other person worked up more, which turns me on more... and the cycle continues.
varav · 31-35, F
@PrincessVelvet thanks for the reply. But this is a classic consequence. I’m sure! Everyone who’s in the know experiences it. But I’m interested in the reasons. The emotional and psychological impetus. Is it a character trait, driven by curiosity, the desire to discover something new and unknown, or are the roots of it in violence? Moral or physical? After all, what’s there to hide? Exhibitionism, no matter how we feel about it, is still a deviation. To understand this, I think we need to delve into our memory. Where I work, hypnosis specialists are very helpful with this.
Annabelle40 · 41-45, F
@PrincessVelvet it is true
Misterbator1 · 51-55, M
@PrincessVelvet we have something in common. I love watching someone masturbate as well as being watched. Its exciting to be in someone's presence and watch each other while talking dirty. Im always filming my masturbation sessions to share with interested females. Its very hot knowing someone is watching me stroke myself till I cum
i just find it really hot to be honest
@Teslin exactly it feels amazing
varav · 31-35, F
@LeahisTired You’re unlikely to do something you don’t like with pleasure. I’m not talking about the result! I’m looking for the reasons why you’re doing this particular thing. More precisely, why do you have a need for it? Why are you an exception to the rule? Why you? And people around you don’t even think about it! And it’s very important! Don’t confuse nudism with exhibitionism. They’re different things! Your answer is the standard answer of a nudist.
@varav oh im sorry! i was talking about nudism i guess
acpguy · CNudity
I don't consider what my husband and I do as exhibitionism as we only are nude in areas where there aren't other people or on our patio which is secluded and no one sees us. So is that "exhibitionism" or just enjoying the feeling of not having to wear clothes? I have had a mastectomy so would not care for others to see me but not a prude about it as people need to accept others like myself. This is my husband and I where we are most often enjoying the freedom of not wearing clothes.
I've just always found clothing terribly restrictive to be honest. That's where me becoming a "nudist" comes from but as far as an exhibitionist I guess it was partially that, seeking freedom because clothing never really felt right on my body no matter what, thrill seeking and a fascination with the bodies of others... So often if I wanted to see theirs, I would first show mine or vice versa. I never quite understood the whole so called "wrongness" of nudity or the naked human body. I find it beautiful. Humans are living, breathing art. 🤷🏾
varav · 31-35, F
@DancingStarGoddess an interesting approach. Thank you. But, again, I’ll maintain the image of a grumpy person. And I’ll seek the truth in books. Exhibitionism is the deliberate, premeditated display of one’s genitals or body in indecent, lust‑inducing poses. With the aim of obtaining sexual satisfaction. You can find something similar in the description of your desires or actions? Overall, I understand you very well. And, of course, I’m in solidarity with you. Both in thoughts and in deeds. And I don’t find anything forbidden or borderline in this. It’s unlikely that what I read matches my idea of exhibitionism. It could be seen as narcissism, but nothing more.
@varav Cool 👍🏾
Dhjonathan · 56-60, M
I mentioned the Bay to Breakers 12k in my last reply. Here’s a video taken by someone in the starting corral at the 2014 race. The start of the race had been delayed, so we were all just waiting. And the way the blonde lady in the house dress (or whatever it was) was looking at me was a huge turn on.
Dhjonathan · 56-60, M
When I was in middle school, I remember a rare instance of having the house to myself. I stripped down and just enjoyed the feeling of being naked, which was always taboo in our household. It was dark out, so I ventured outside in our driveway, imagining what it would be like to be caught, preferably by an attractive female.

In high school, I started taking walks to a nearby cemetery after dark, stripping down and walking naked, daring myself to see how far from my clothes I could get. It got to where I’d walk to the edge of the cemetery and stand there while a car would pass by on the Main Street, hoping they would see me. Nobody ever stopped or even slowed down.

At 18, I went off to college and started modeling nude for art classes. I loved being naked for the students, but I really loved when people not in the class came in or when the door to the room got left open when I was naked in a pose. I also went to nudist resorts.

When I was 42, I flew to San Francisco to walk naked in the Bay to Breakers 12k. I was naked in front of tens of thousands of people. I loved it so much that I kept going back year after year.

I’ve also asked several Ecstatic Dance facilitators if I could dance nude at their events. After all, they say you can dance how you want in a judgement free space. Most of them say no, but one five day camping festival said yes. I’ve gone there three years and been naked the entire time.

Benjr134 · M
I was fairly young. Like 12 or 13. My friend’s sister caught me and I liked it. So I tried to be “caught” more often. It stopped around 17. I still wanted to be caught but knew that if I continued, I could get in trouble. So then I started more controlled situations.
Domking · 61-69, M
BTW, why not put the poll topics in English as well.
KentuckyFriedFloozy · 26-30, F
It was definitely after puberty for sure.
varav · 31-35, F
@KentuckyFriedFloozy Thank you. I got it What triggered this new experience for you? I think curiosity is more likely to be associated with those who encounter it before puberty.
KentuckyFriedFloozy · 26-30, F
@varav no idea honestly. I just kinda felt sexy and excited really.
WolfGirlwh0r3 · 36-40, T
Its all Russian to me....
Cantsayno · M
I would sneak out of my house completely naked when my parents weren’t home.
I loved the vulnerability of it.
I was probably 12 or 13.
Bill67 · 56-60, M
About 10 years ago on holiday
WasEP · 51-55, M
Before puberty. Us boys were horny and we always would pull it out.lol. All stopped once we hit puberty
jackson55 · M
Wouldn't call it exhibitionism. My parents were social nudists. Nudity was normal at my house. My sister and I grew up with nudity.
edtur61 · 61-69, M
I was about 12/13 years old I had lots of alone time I discovered how much fun it was to get naked and wander around my yard and as I got gamer the streets around the house
varav · 31-35, F
@edtur61 judging by the practice of communication, this is a fairly common first step. But, as I wrote below, it's more nudism. And, as a rule, all nudists talk about this first experience. And I'm no exception either. But to bring you closer to the essence of my question. I'll have to give you a personal example. Everything was exactly the same as yours. Only with minor nuances. But I clearly remember that it didn't seem enough to me once. I desperately wanted someone to notice me. And the very idea of being noticed was taken to its maximum extent. No one simply paid any attention to me. It was as if I didn’t exist at all! Or, like, “Oh, is that you? Well, hello. How are you?” Although I knew for sure that no one was actually interested in how I was doing. And that really weighed me down. So I decided to take a drastic approach to the issue. That was my root cause. An inferiority complex. And as a consequence, a lack of attention. And for a teenager, there’s nothing worse than that. Some people take their own lives because of such reasons.
edtur61 · 61-69, M
@varav I’ve had a few of nudist friends and every time we were together we would end up naked because it just felt right but I realised early on that I wasn’t a real nudist I was getting sexual pleasure from being naked
varav · 31-35, F
@edtur61 I understood this. I understood it from your first post. Please explain to me how this can help solve my problem? “Research into the root causes of exhibitionism.”
ChipmunkErnie · 70-79, M
Damn, I'm so old I remember when exhibitionism meant the need to be the center of attention, not to be seen nude.
Domking · 61-69, M
It was less of a 'seen by others' and more of a feeling free, overcome my hangups matter for me.
Being in India, I had to be careful about the chances that others will feel very offended or insulted, especially womenfolk and that it may spiral into a legal issue.
However, I had inhibition and fear in company of those of my friends who would not mind. I did overcome that but slowly, after some time.
varav · 31-35, F
@Domking The response has been accepted. Thank you. But, it seems to me, this isn’t exhibitionism. Rather, it’s nudism. In my understanding — and this is supported by the very etymology and root of the word — being naked and being naked specifically for someone are two different things. Undoubtedly! If the latter stems from the former, it can be accepted and understood. The same cannot be said about the former.
Domking · 61-69, M
@varav thank you for replying. Mine is naturism not exhibitionism. 😀
Please check my message will you?
varav · 31-35, F
@Domking 😄Well, if that’s the case, I suggest you read my question carefully. Is there anything said about nudism? "A study of the root causes of exhibitionism.!
FloorGenAdm · 51-55, M
It was more about my clothes being itchy or uncomfortable or the weather was way hot.
Magenta · F
Did you read that exhibitionism is closely tied to narcissism and social exhibitionism as a Core Narcissistic Trait?
varav · 31-35, F
@Magenta Is there any truth to it?😄 This is the foundation of this deviation. If not the foundation, then the most common symptom. What can I say? I’ve been through it myself.
Magenta · F
@varav I was just asking if YOU thought it? I know I do.
Well, your honesty is refreshing. 😊
varav · 31-35, F
@Magenta If I understand the question correctly, I’ll answer it this way. I’m sure of it. All deviations fundamentally stem from psychological complexes. Exhibitionism is one way to overcome them. How correct is this path? It’s a controversial question. Why is it controversial? Because once you get into this cycle, it’s not so easy to break out of it. You could even compare it to a drug addiction, which can simply destroy the psyche and lead to uncontrolled behavior. And then it’s a direct path to a psychiatrist and long‑term treatment.
Slavem · 70-79, M
I think in junior high school gym class, forced to get naked in front of others and that was the start of it for me. I got over the fears and didn’t care if anybody saw me without clothes.
varav · 31-35, F
@Slavem What kind of school is this where they force people to undress? And even if we assume that, what was the motivation of those who engaged in such moral abuse?
Slavem · 70-79, M
@varav everyone showered and dressed together
Teslin · M
As much as I enjoy being nude, indoor and outdoor. I have never experienced "being seen" by others. So, I guess I am not a good candidate for your study.
I am weird about that, when I was younger I would put myself in situations where people "MIGHT" see me nude but it was unlikely. Now I will post photos on here fully expecting people to laugh at me or insult me because I know I do not have an attractive body at all.
AceOfSpades · 36-40, M
I literally posted a full body nude photo on here a few days ago.

Nothing really prompted me to do it, other than I wanted to see what people would react to it.

Mostly men, giving it a little heart. A few women too though, and it did lead to some amazing chats.
varav · 31-35, F
@AceOfSpades Thank you. I got it Obvious curiosity. If everything is as you described. It’s unlikely to be signs of exhibitionism. Social media is full of such scenarios.
AceOfSpades · 36-40, M
@varav Very much curiosity. It's not the first time I've uploaded such pics, but was the first time I posted it on the image feed. 🤣
Bashfulandnude · 36-40, M
Started very young, i spent a lot of time with grandparents for the first few years of life. My earliest memory was me running nude in the front yard, only for my granddad to be very displeased. I was too young to know that being naked outside was not the norm.

As I got older, there was a lot of accidental male nudity on movies/ tv at the time that basically were the seeds for growing fascination for nudism.

I remember being so bored at home when no one was around until I had the most groundbreaking idea “Get naked!”. So I did, by then, I was old enough to understand how exciting and risky it was. At one point, my grandma came home earlier than usual. There was a sense of excitement of me almost being caught.

High school, I bought a pair of zebra underwear at this strip mall at the time. Around midnight, I would sneak out and sneak into my school’s pool and skinny dip. Those days were fun and thank god I was never caught. I think once a janitor saw me.

Now, I have a few friends who don’t mind me nude. Especially when we go to the woods.
varav · 31-35, F
@Bashfulandnude So, after all, is it a reaction of antagonism? To do something in spite of?
Bashfulandnude · 36-40, M
@varav I never thought of that but I think to a certain extent. Especially since he was a very puritanical man.
varav · 31-35, F
@Bashfulandnude Thank you. I got it
tenente · 36-40, M
I try to be invisible. My pronouns are "who?" "where?"

 
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