How do you learn to be comfortable being nude around other adults?
It's something I've never really figured out, along with plenty of more sexual things I feel I have never properly understood.
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swirlie · 31-35, F
Being comfortable wearing only your own skin while around other adults is something that has to be introduced early to you in life, such as coming from a cultural upbringing that has a very open-minded attitude toward the human body. You will not find that open-minded attitude in western cultures, by the way!
To start into public nudity at your current age, would be like learning how to downhill ski at the age of 55, rather than 5.
To start into public nudity at your current age, would be like learning how to downhill ski at the age of 55, rather than 5.
swirlie · 31-35, F
@zonavar68
Oral sex is really no different, even if one were giving oral sex. The earlier in life you learn how to do that, the more natural it becomes, to the point of not even thinking about it. If one learns later on in life how to give oral sex, then it becomes this huge psychological deal and pretty much an ordeal anytime one tries to give it.
Oral sex is really no different, even if one were giving oral sex. The earlier in life you learn how to do that, the more natural it becomes, to the point of not even thinking about it. If one learns later on in life how to give oral sex, then it becomes this huge psychological deal and pretty much an ordeal anytime one tries to give it.
zonavar68 · 56-60, M
@swirlie Giving oral to a woman I am totally in tune and at peace with. It's receiving it (presumably from a woman as I'm not gay) I am very scared of. However my last ex never allowed me to give her oral and never once even hinted at doing it to me. She also rarely, if ever, would be naked around me.
swirlie · 31-35, F
@Poppies
It's never too late in life to learn to give oral but the difference is, the younger you are when you start, the less you worry about being in a secluded place when you decide to give oral to someone.
That is because giving oral when the opportunity presents itself, is more like suddenly kissing someone in public regardless of who is around. Giving oral and kissing, becomes very spontaneous if you start very early in life and you make oral a part of your intimate sex life.
It's never too late in life to learn to give oral but the difference is, the younger you are when you start, the less you worry about being in a secluded place when you decide to give oral to someone.
That is because giving oral when the opportunity presents itself, is more like suddenly kissing someone in public regardless of who is around. Giving oral and kissing, becomes very spontaneous if you start very early in life and you make oral a part of your intimate sex life.
zonavar68 · 56-60, M
@swirlie I don't know. I had just one time (in my 20's with partner 1) when I orgasmed from it, then never did it again (with partner 1). Partner 2 never even tried. I think it's connected to why I don't really enjoy masturbation either because it feels undeserving to have self-pleasure. I've been single 8 yrs now.
To me the issues I have around fear of public nudity, masturbation, receiving oral sex, sex in general, are all interconnected but I don't know how it's gone that way.
To me the issues I have around fear of public nudity, masturbation, receiving oral sex, sex in general, are all interconnected but I don't know how it's gone that way.
swirlie · 31-35, F