how to stop the impulse to flirt with women on the phone

i was sexually awakened at a very young age which has caused me to be oversexed, i'm always watching porn, and it's hard to control and not doing it...like sexual impulses...i realize it's not good for me, but i feel 'spellbound' by sex.......i had a lot of sex encounters with girls in my teens....but missed out on finding a steady girlfriend because i had severe mental disorders to deal with, social issues too, and i went down a dark path and missed out on relationships. I'm late 40s now.

fast forward to the present and when i speak with women on the phone, whether it be call centres, helplines....i tend to quickly resort to flirting with her, even though i hardly know the woman....it's like just even by speaking to a woman and hearing her voice, makes me aroused?

and even when i don't particularly like the attitude of the woman or not like her personality and need to speak seriously, assertively to get a matter resolved....i end up resorting to flirting again, because i feel aroused speaking with the woman...just because it's a woman?...and on the occasions a women flirts back, which they do at times...i get really turned on and aroused....

how can i overrule these impulses, desires and flirtation habits? i really want to get the better of it because it's controlling my life, and as i said, i'm spellbound by sex.

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Chris00987 · 46-50, MNew

I can relate to a degree. I remember having to call the power company one time to report a power outage. The woman on the other end of the line had such a nice voice. I couldn't help but start talking sweetly to her, almost like I would talk to a girlfriend. I feel like it's part of our biological nature to flirt to possibly attract a mate. It's just important to be respectful, and to control that urge. Make sure it's directed at women who are actually single, that you can see, and that are also giving signs that they have some interest in you as well. Luckily the woman from the power company started playing along with it in my situation. We had a fun moment, but other people might think it's inappropriate, so you gotta read the situation well.

PatientlyWaiting25 · 46-50, F

There's not necessarily anything wrong with flirting, particularly on the phone. It probably lifts her day whether she responds or not. If it's affecting you or other people negatively that's a different thing, you just need to read the situation really. X

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