Even had a 'ruined orgasm' moment ?

How did it make you feel? Horrible? Humiliated? Something different?

What caused it?

According to one website I found, it's supposed to be an element of bdsm (which would explain the humiliation aspect). My understanding of it I think is wrong though, as I was thinking it's when I can't keep an erection or just can't orgasm no matter how much thought and effort I put into it. But that doesn't match the accepted definition explained here:

https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a28539248/ruined-orgasm-bdsm/

So maybe I really don't know.

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SemiAnonymous · 61-69, M

Many years ago my girlfriend and I were having sex on a beach about 2am one night. I got sooo close to cumming (I was literally seconds away), when we spotted someone walking down the beach with a flashlight. We stopped, pulled up our bathing suits and let them pass.

My girlfriend was freaked about starting again so I took her home. Later that night I had my first and only case of blueballs. It was like getting kicked in the balls but lasted a few hours.

swirlie · 31-35, F

@SemiAnonymous
My very first boyfriend I had who was 16 when I was allowed to start dating at my age of 14, had a genetic condition known as 'hyperspermia' which slowly became evident as he went through puberty.

For the preceding 4 years before he met me, he frequently experienced 'blue balls' which he caused himself as a self-inflicted and often painful experience. Rather than taking the time to understand what blue balls resulted from, he instead tried to suppress his frequent desires to ejaculate which became exacerbated by his genetic condition of hyperspermia.

zonavar68 · 51-55, M

@SemiAnonymous that's a story that nobody would believe unless it actually happened!

swirlie · 31-35, F

@zonavar68
Been there, done that, believe it actually happened.

SlaveEt · 36-40, F

@SemiAnonymous
That sounds more like edging to me. And a hard edge at that!