Partner masturbating in private and not wanting intimacy?

I noticed it when we were away a month ago. He was in the bathroom and I heard it but put it down to a one off. But it’s becoming more often. It’s happened the past 2 days when he thinks I’m asleep. He’ll ‘sneak’ off into the bathroom but again, I can hear it.
He seems to be making excuses to not be intimate. I asked him this morning if he still finds me attractive because I don’t feel like he does, he sighed and said I wouldn’t be here otherwise.

I feel I may be overreacting, I have no issue with him masturbating, but I do if it gets in the way of our intimacy.

Any advice?

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robertsnj · 56-60, M

On Sat or whenever you have off go to someplay and pick up breakfest to go. Sit down and talk it out with him

Tell him what your needs are and why you enjoy being intimate with him.

Ask him about his needs including how often he needs, it and what he needs specifically. also what he enjoys about being intmate with you.

If he won't have a convesation with you got a real problem but you may end up hash it out over hashbrowns and find out that is something silly like he didn't want to wake you up in the middle of the night for sex or he felt he was being too pushy.

You don't know until you sit down with him and talk about it.

best of luck to you

biandlargeny · 56-60, M

@robertsnj great approach