Premature ejaculation

Please be honest here. I deal with premature ejaculation. I always make sure my wife has her orgasm first as it seems it takes less pressure off me to make sure my wife is satisfied. The average time varies from 1 minute to 3 minutes. I'm not talking about the entire act of sex, I'm strictly saying PIV ( penis in vagina). I also have to go slow and slowly thrust, if it's fast then you can say 30 seconds.
My question is, if you had a orgasm whether it's during foreplay or during intercourse, would you be disappointed or frustrated that intercourse wasn't longer? Would you tell your partner you want more orgasms?

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zonavar68 · 56-60, M

Even though I'm single and feel I don't really understand the linkages between dating, romance, sex, etc. like a neuro-typical person does I do know that it isn't about the destination but is about the journey. When my second ex became more and more narcissistic and rejecting of me I lost all interest in sex but early on in the relationship the sex was amazing and it didn't matter how it happened and what order things happened. It was (for a time) mutual happiness.

Remember as we get older (I'm 57) our abilities change. We can't recover within 30 minutes like teen boys apparently can (usually 24 hrs for me). We can't sustain full on intimacy for hours because of the physical requirements and most older men and women have dad or mum bods.

If I found a new partner after being single 8 yrs I would have a lot of trouble controlling my orgasms if I ever got to that point of mutual intimacy simply because I'm *old* now. 8-)