How do you work out your sexuality and sexual preferences as a mature adult who's really confused by it all?
I'm a guy - I have a penis and balls so gender wise I'm a man. No doubting that. No wacky pronouning with me.
Sexuality - not sure.
Sexual preferences - not sure.
Are sexuality and sexual preferences the same thing or not - not sure.
I know there are stacks of videos on youtube about people explaining how they work out their sexuality and sexual preferences, but for me I've 'questioned' mine pretty much my whole life and feel not being able to work that out contributed in a large way to relationships not working out, being frightened of sex, romance, intimacy, emotional commitment stuff, etc.
I've not been married, hardly dated, had two LTR's, but feel like the whole sex/romance/dating/intimacy boat/bus/bandwagon has gone. I can't (and don't) talk about it with anyone as I reckon almost everyone would just say i'm 'wierd' for not categorically knowing at my age.
I feel wierd living in a world where you're meant to know the answers to these things since it's kind of important when trying to be 'open' to potential possibilities of linking with sometime in a romantic/intimate sense.
Some people 'know' they are straight, bi, gay, lesbian, queer, polysexual, demisexual, pansexual, sapiosexual, etc but for me none of that works. I'm just me, and perhaps there is a scientific way (like how people get 'tested' for things like ASD) to maybe work out which box (and which 'shape' of box) is right. I don't know what to categorise myself as, and even just saying 'neuro divergent' really doesn't make sense to me as I just don't know what that actually is.
Sexuality - not sure.
Sexual preferences - not sure.
Are sexuality and sexual preferences the same thing or not - not sure.
I know there are stacks of videos on youtube about people explaining how they work out their sexuality and sexual preferences, but for me I've 'questioned' mine pretty much my whole life and feel not being able to work that out contributed in a large way to relationships not working out, being frightened of sex, romance, intimacy, emotional commitment stuff, etc.
I've not been married, hardly dated, had two LTR's, but feel like the whole sex/romance/dating/intimacy boat/bus/bandwagon has gone. I can't (and don't) talk about it with anyone as I reckon almost everyone would just say i'm 'wierd' for not categorically knowing at my age.
I feel wierd living in a world where you're meant to know the answers to these things since it's kind of important when trying to be 'open' to potential possibilities of linking with sometime in a romantic/intimate sense.
Some people 'know' they are straight, bi, gay, lesbian, queer, polysexual, demisexual, pansexual, sapiosexual, etc but for me none of that works. I'm just me, and perhaps there is a scientific way (like how people get 'tested' for things like ASD) to maybe work out which box (and which 'shape' of box) is right. I don't know what to categorise myself as, and even just saying 'neuro divergent' really doesn't make sense to me as I just don't know what that actually is.
