I need help with my bfs kink

Nobody has to accept another person's kink.

PERIOD.

That being said - it sounds like kind of a deal breaker for you both.

If he absolutely has to have that to stay in the relationship and you can't give it - then he has to decide whether to stay or go.

On your side - you have to decide if you can deal with the spit...if you just can't then that's valid.

Bottom line: If he has to have it to stay in the relationship and you just can't do it - sounds like the decision has made itself.

Nobody should have to go without something they crave - and nobody should do anything that makes them feel bad.

And nobody should passive aggressively put the blame on the other person for not sharing a kink.

He needs to not push his kinks on you.

Spitting is gross, I am with you. I can't handle it and I had someone spit on me once and I nearly threw up on him.

If he can't have a serious and mature discussion with you about and it respect you, he needs the boot. Life is too short.

I mean if you aren't into it then you aren't into it. A person making you feel guilty for not doing something sexually is not a good person, so you should really think about that. If you are not interested in that kind of advice, then the best way to dip your toe into something like that is to start by doing it in the shower.

Thats a tough one. Maybe explain to him that no part of it is sexy or a turn on for you. Tell him you are open to helping him fulfill other sexual fantasies and experiences, just not that one.

Do you really "need him?"

Dump the clown 🤡