Asking
Only logged in members can reply and interact with the post.
Join SimilarWorlds for FREE »

Do kids know how to fail?

For a boy, one of the ways he becomes a man, is to try things and fail. From what I have been reading
many boys don't want to try different things, because they are afraid to fail.

I have seen this with many people, adults included. My sister is one of them. She has never, ever, tried a sport
of any kind throughout her life. And I know why, it is because she is afraid she will fail, and someone will
laugh at her.

But to become a man, boys MUST fail at things, if you don't, you will never become a man, because it means
that you never try new things, and you never take risks.

Could you imagine through time, people never trying new things? never taking risks?
This page is a permanent link to the reply below and its nested replies. See all post replies »
SunshineGirl · 36-40, F
That's a good attitude and approach to life. But most versions of "being a man" that I see being pushed to boys consist of a zero sum calculation in which one lucky winner takes all the prizes and the rest are condemned as "losers". Which may be why some young people do not even bother trying.
This comment is hidden. Show Comment
SunshineGirl · 36-40, F
@DogMan Well sometimes it's more important to take part in a sport - for health, sociability, fun - than it is to win. My daughter does gymnastics at a high level. She has success, but has tasted a load of disappointment to achieve what she has. At the same time she encourages other girls in her club who are not so skilled. And she tries other things she is not so good at. Mainly because she has the confidence to "fail" without fear of negative criticism.
DogMan · 61-69, M
@SunshineGirl Many people and kids are able to use the criticism and disappointment to overcome obstacles.