Do you ever feel like you’re a punching bag for someone?

Was often the case when I was a people pleaser. I didn’t want to create waves that would end up with anyone hating me, so I just let others continue to bring the hints because once the heart gets attached some attention was better than no attention. Really didn’t like that phase of my life and who it made me become. The only way I finally detached from it was when I felt the rock bottom I was willingly lying down on. I sat with that heartbreak…the one they caused and the one I brought on myself. I made myself feel every ounce of it, mainly because I was too tired to fight it off. Acknowledged it. Saw it for what it truly was. Saw them for who they truly were. Saw myself for who I could be…who I deserved to be. Nothing was the same again. It took some time, years of deprogramming and reprogramming, but I was never anyone’s punching bag again. I simply refused to be.

My ex husband was a narcissist so yeah. Never could figure out what I did wrong. I didn’t do anything and he was hostile to me.

Yes, I used to just take everything. Finally learning to stand up for myself

Yes. and literally I have been also. And nope, I DGAF if they do it to someone else bc I am hang on by a thread.

I just need a way out.
THEY need to know hey have crossed no only lines but continents, and it's time it STOPS.
What I have put up with they would have been arrested for, numerous times.

Hugs, this is a very painful post for me.

Yes. I can’t explain it but I do understand this.

I'm too feisty for that.
But I have experienced it when I was growing up. When my feisty wasn't enough.

No. I was never the punching bag, but I often get to be the villain and scapegoat.

Never, I don't want toxic attention 😅

Yup. Im high but i accept it.

err no. that would never stand..

I feel I’ve been one metaphorically several times..especially for my mother. 🥺

I stand up for myself when needed. People can do right by me like I make every attempt to for them ... or I can let them move along outside of my circle.

Yes, but neither examples fit the scenario. They very much well know I'm not happy with it, but it doesn't change anything in their behavior.

A suggestion. State your business.

I feel like I have to blow up for people to back down.

Not good. But what to do?

Many times in the past. I was used and abused but I barely got out with my sanity.

I just assume they're jealous of my attributes

I used to be, but no longer.

My kids beat up on me

Yes ..
Sooooo much ...

No. No. No.

Not anymore. I’ve had those kinds of interactions but after leaving home I came to the conclusion that I didn’t have keep anyone like that in my life. There were other people to date, other people to befriend, even other [b]jobs[/b] if it came down to it.

Yep