Do you ever feel like you’re a punching bag for someone?

… not literally (or physically) of course.

You want to ask them to stop, but you hate thinking they’d do it to someone else with thinner skin.

Or maybe you’re worn down to the point where the attention feels nice.

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PerfectionOfTheHeart · 46-50, F

Was often the case when I was a people pleaser. I didn’t want to create waves that would end up with anyone hating me, so I just let others continue to bring the hints because once the heart gets attached some attention was better than no attention. Really didn’t like that phase of my life and who it made me become. The only way I finally detached from it was when I felt the rock bottom I was willingly lying down on. I sat with that heartbreak…the one they caused and the one I brought on myself. I made myself feel every ounce of it, mainly because I was too tired to fight it off. Acknowledged it. Saw it for what it truly was. Saw them for who they truly were. Saw myself for who I could be…who I deserved to be. Nothing was the same again. It took some time, years of deprogramming and reprogramming, but I was never anyone’s punching bag again. I simply refused to be.

PhoenixPhail · M

@PerfectionOfTheHeart That's fantastic. You achieved something I think most people will never experience. 👍

JovialMoose · 46-50, M

@PerfectionOfTheHeart for me… it’s never gone that deep.

I just see the potential of a friendship and they just can’t let their defenses down enough.

I’m pretty patient and I’ve grown some great friendships by wearing down their defenses…

But maybe I’m getting too old for this…