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I Hate Sociopaths

Sociopaths Show No Mercy...
[b]1 out of 25 people are sociopaths. Narcissism is part of this anti-social personality disorder. What is the chance you are seeing them here? We are not talking Charles Manson-you work with these people, interact everyday, possibly date or marry them…here is my experience, hoping it will help you.[/b]
[b]Three and a half years ago, I lost my only daughter. It is the only time that life has brought me to my knees with a grief so overwhelming, I begged God to take me too. I tell you this, not to elicit sympathy ,but to show you how cruel people can be.[/b]
[b]My best friend and his new mistress decided to seek revenge 3 weeks after I lost my daughter…he was mad I rejected him, she was mad over his feelings for me. Reasoning did not help. She told my boss that I threatened to hit her, hurt her and kill her to get me fired. Overkill, Yes!  But that is what saved my job.[/b]
[b]I was in grief counselling at the time.  He said I was dealing with sociopaths that were not allowing me to grieve.  He said they would turn on one another eventually and that is what they did.  Blaming each other for the others actions.  Here are some of the warning signs he gave me. .[/b]
[b]1. Look for the drama…there is ALWAYS drama around these people.  Look at what they write, talk about..blaming others for their misfortune and not taking any responsibility for their own actions.[/b]
[b]2. They must be and will do anything to be the center of attention. They will attack anyone who tries to take this away from them[/b]
[b]3. There is something not quite right with these people..you can’t put your finger on it ,but you know[/b]
[b]4. They are highly intelligent, charming liars and manipulators[/b]
[b]5. They usually have addictive personalities sometimes parasitic.   My friend had been married for many years but the lady had been in several failed marriages and was highly promiscuous. Drug and alcohol abuse can occur.[/b]
[b]6. They can work in teams..one is the brain who puts the mouth up to do the dirty work.[/b]
[b]7.. Only their opinion counts. There is only one way and it is their way.[/b]
[b]8. People fear sociopaths. They don’t want to be on their radar. It is easier to go along with them than go against them.[/b]
[b]9. They have no conscience.  They respond like they do, but it is faked.[/b]
[b]How do you deal with them?[/b]
[b]You can’t. They are not fixable. Your best strategy is to avoid, avoid, avoid. They will do everything to engage you in verbal battle. Since they have no conscience, counseling will not help.  

 Ihighly recommend the book "The Sociopath next Door".  This will help you recognize the symptoms before they ruin your life.[/b]
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Prokamin
But you forgot the strenghts.
akindheart · 61-69, F
please tell me the strengths. I have only witnessed the nastiness..(said respectfully btw)
Prokamin
Daring, no proscrination, will, often wit, endurance, able to take decisions. I am not saying that there is no destruction but more that they are people more means than others even among sociopaths. I do admit the glee when you can get away and win over someone, though. But its not about the person. Not always.
Prokamin
There is people more means than others. ( not they) bad english.
Prokamin
we say means or wicked? Anyway. That even among sociopaths there is more sond of bitch than others if you want, on a daily basis.
akindheart · 61-69, F
well although those are admirable...it is the way they go about their goal with no regard to anyone in their way...
Prokamin
Yes. Course. No charity no mercy.
akindheart · 61-69, F
i really appreciate your insight...i find the whole thing fascinating...
Prokamin
I feel pure. I have a trail of " nasty things" and still feel pure. Not bad person. But I probably have done for 3 lifes. And do what it has to be done. And thays my point, if you feel in peace its not that you are wicked, or maybe yes but what I feel is purity anyway. Maybe my the word is sadistic. Some people think I am but I dont see it this way.
akindheart · 61-69, F
i am not sure sociopaths can help themselves. that is the sad part. And from what i read, this is not fixable...right?
Prokamin
I dont think its fixable. Just some behaviours over the time by themselves maybe. But not how you feel and think in a whole. How I could put me in their places and why. I dont even think about what they feel. Even talking about, it dont happen when the time come.
akindheart · 61-69, F
i truly understand....i have read everything i can on the subject. I have one more book...it is called Sharks in Sheep clothing...about sociopaths in the workplace
Prokamin
Ive read none but yes studies. Ah funny fact, I though that everyone was an actor, that empathy was politeness only. And at the same time found stupid that people act like they believe each other. Like why so teatral doing like they believe ? It was confuse but anyway, they was doing what I wanted. Than I understood they were not playing. Its different, me its a non psychopatic person that I still dont get at 100%. I am surprised that 18 yrs old kids here figured it all yet. That made me doubt their diagnosis reading them. Too fast aware.
akindheart · 61-69, F
i didn't know what it was until my friend said that i was always in trouble with people...then i saw the pattern. it was not me, it was them...sociopaths trying to get me out of the way...
Prokamin
As you said, there is more than people think and in all shapes everywhere and if you have more feelings its emotionally draining I know.