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I Hate Sociopaths

Sociopaths Show No Mercy...
[b]1 out of 25 people are sociopaths. Narcissism is part of this anti-social personality disorder. What is the chance you are seeing them here? We are not talking Charles Manson-you work with these people, interact everyday, possibly date or marry them…here is my experience, hoping it will help you.[/b]
[b]Three and a half years ago, I lost my only daughter. It is the only time that life has brought me to my knees with a grief so overwhelming, I begged God to take me too. I tell you this, not to elicit sympathy ,but to show you how cruel people can be.[/b]
[b]My best friend and his new mistress decided to seek revenge 3 weeks after I lost my daughter…he was mad I rejected him, she was mad over his feelings for me. Reasoning did not help. She told my boss that I threatened to hit her, hurt her and kill her to get me fired. Overkill, Yes!  But that is what saved my job.[/b]
[b]I was in grief counselling at the time.  He said I was dealing with sociopaths that were not allowing me to grieve.  He said they would turn on one another eventually and that is what they did.  Blaming each other for the others actions.  Here are some of the warning signs he gave me. .[/b]
[b]1. Look for the drama…there is ALWAYS drama around these people.  Look at what they write, talk about..blaming others for their misfortune and not taking any responsibility for their own actions.[/b]
[b]2. They must be and will do anything to be the center of attention. They will attack anyone who tries to take this away from them[/b]
[b]3. There is something not quite right with these people..you can’t put your finger on it ,but you know[/b]
[b]4. They are highly intelligent, charming liars and manipulators[/b]
[b]5. They usually have addictive personalities sometimes parasitic.   My friend had been married for many years but the lady had been in several failed marriages and was highly promiscuous. Drug and alcohol abuse can occur.[/b]
[b]6. They can work in teams..one is the brain who puts the mouth up to do the dirty work.[/b]
[b]7.. Only their opinion counts. There is only one way and it is their way.[/b]
[b]8. People fear sociopaths. They don’t want to be on their radar. It is easier to go along with them than go against them.[/b]
[b]9. They have no conscience.  They respond like they do, but it is faked.[/b]
[b]How do you deal with them?[/b]
[b]You can’t. They are not fixable. Your best strategy is to avoid, avoid, avoid. They will do everything to engage you in verbal battle. Since they have no conscience, counseling will not help.  

 Ihighly recommend the book "The Sociopath next Door".  This will help you recognize the symptoms before they ruin your life.[/b]
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Inimical
Not all of us are the way you described. Logically speaking happy people, friends if you will, benifit one more than unhappy, I keep those around me happy then in turn the world around me stays steady which is what I like, Mutually beneficial, some of us find knowledge more useful then cruelty. I need to know about people to do good, yes it is for my own good which makes it manipulative, but all of humanity is manipulative so I see no harm. We are not all evil
akindheart · 61-69, F
Thsnk you for the insight. Wouldn't yiu say that sociopaths are self centered? It is all about them? Thanks for helping me understand
Inimical
Ego centric would be the word, It is just an extreme form of self preservation. Little to nothing is done for others without benefit to self.
Inimical
I will give you an example. When I had my son, I felt no bond, honestly the only reason I have him is because I understand I would not last in prison and my family would have abandoned me if i gave him up. I needed them to survive so I kept him. I do have a bond of sorts with him now, I find his development interesting and he is amusing. He has also 'taught'me, if you will, a little about emotional development which I am trying to learn along side him, I have surpassed what i was supposed to be capable of because I put him equal with me in importance to my existence.
akindheart · 61-69, F
again, i want to thank you for helping me understand this disorder. I just knew I was running into something I didn't quite understand. My ex-husband was a sociopath and he managed to twist everything emotionlessly to look like it was me. I ran into these people at work and wondered why I seemed to be their target. Can you shed light on that? Do sociopaths target people? I watched 2 sisters eliminate their competition as they rose thru the ranks.
Inimical
Anyones a target, it generally depends of what ones purpose is, some have the purpose of destroying its all that makes them feel alive, they prey on the weak, some attention is their pleasure, in which case they destroy those who do not satisfy that need, then there are those whos need is something outside human interaction and only destroy what gets in their way, the couple you encountered were a combination of the first two, which although more actively destructive are less devastating than the third
Lilyfire1
yes exactly. Why hurt my friends when they are much more helpful happy?