SalamanderWolfWoman · 26-30
I'm in a similar situation dealing with family who trigger me. I feel trapped too.
Here's my advice:
If I was constantly being asked to drive folks, I would simply remind them to either find a carpool service, transit pass, or Uber. I would downplay my driving skills when speaking with the people who ask me to drive. I speak to them as if I were the worst driver in the world and remind them of their "freedom and convenience of riding with carpools, public transit, and Uber/rideshare" and how those are better alternatives to my driving. Arrogant people with requests usually assume that they are smarter than everyone else. I play stupid to the point that they assume that I am no longer worth asking for errands. That is how I cope with folks asking for requests. I also agree with the previous note suggesting that you shoukd find a way to escape from people who trigger. You have my complete sympathy. I have PTSD too. I have no resources available. If anybody is reading, please give me advice too...
Here's my advice:
If I was constantly being asked to drive folks, I would simply remind them to either find a carpool service, transit pass, or Uber. I would downplay my driving skills when speaking with the people who ask me to drive. I speak to them as if I were the worst driver in the world and remind them of their "freedom and convenience of riding with carpools, public transit, and Uber/rideshare" and how those are better alternatives to my driving. Arrogant people with requests usually assume that they are smarter than everyone else. I play stupid to the point that they assume that I am no longer worth asking for errands. That is how I cope with folks asking for requests. I also agree with the previous note suggesting that you shoukd find a way to escape from people who trigger. You have my complete sympathy. I have PTSD too. I have no resources available. If anybody is reading, please give me advice too...
RedGrizzly · 26-30, F
@SalamanderWolfWoman haha! That's an awesome idea. It does get exhausting after a while. I had to reflect on it when I was more stable. I think the stress from trying to fight myself from having an episode, especially since it was around my cycle which exacerbates it more just makes simple tasks even harder mentally. After a while, the driving hasn't become much of a burden especially since I had to talk to my mom about my PTSD and to show her how to stop triggering me by putting boundaries. She didn't like it at first and downplays it as anxiety, but after seeing how bad it gets she's started to respect it. I don't think she understands still, since she'll send me stuff about how to cope with anxiety lol but she at least stopped triggering me.
But as of right now, I'm getting intrusive memories from things that have happened nearly 20 years ago when I was in 5th grade. But at least, it's not overwhelming right now.
But as of right now, I'm getting intrusive memories from things that have happened nearly 20 years ago when I was in 5th grade. But at least, it's not overwhelming right now.
