I Hate Psychopaths

but they love me

what on earth do I do to have them around me all the time

am I too kind and am I too much of a pushover for wanting love

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taylababy · F

The reason why you attract those type of men (jerks -or- men with rage -or-narcissists -or- borderline -or- sociopaths) is cause they prey on girls that they can control. They prey on a sweet, kind, submissive personality type.

You need to recognize the signs and red flags then run. You need to cultivate a very strong personality so they know after 5 mins of conversation that u're not the type they can control, independent minded. If you only attract those type of jerks it is because they see your vulnerability. Even if you try to hide it. But whether you attract them or not, the key is in your hand. You make the decision. They can't use you if you don't put up with them, they can't control you if you don't let them. If you see red flags don't stay with them, leave fast. 🙂 A man can only do to you what you put up with. Don't forget that.

revenant · F

@taylababy i am vulnerable it is true

taylababy · F

@revenant vulnerability and receptiveness are assets and admirable qualities but theyre for later on in the relationship. jerks are out there looking to target easy marks (emotionally manipulate) when they see an open unattended purse (personality traits). be vigilant.

revenant · F

@taylababy thank you and what you say is true

taylababy · F

@revenant you are strong and can do it! i am not just saying this as a bumper sticker thing. stand up and fight for urself just as u would for ur little sister or grandmother or animal. find ur loud firm determined voice and shove and kick and punch these jerkwads in the nose if need be.

no one will ever think that they don't deserve what's coming to them. esp their other victims that came before u.

revenant · F

@taylababy i do not know you but i needed to hear that
everybody around me tells me to just suck it up

ThePerfectUsername · 70-79, M

I second all taylababy's comments. You need to find a way to disguise your vulnerabilities until you've had time to decide whether a new person is trustworthy or not. And even then don't reveal all the ways in which you're vulnerable in on go. Show them a small vulnerability - see if they respect it. If the do then maybe show them a bit more important one... and don't be afraid to back off again if any of your vulnerabilities get taken advantage of. @revenant

revenant · F

@ThePerfectUsername i have to be reprogrammed

ThePerfectUsername · 70-79, M

[quote]i have to be reprogrammed[/quote]
OMG! That sounds so ominous when you say it! 😱 The good news is though that it's you who chooses which program to run this time, not someone else. 🤗
@revenant

SW-User

@taylababy Yup that is right. Narcissists-sociopath types go for the "kind" submissive receptive types, ya have to become awares of that. Looks like ya are 👍️