AuDHD & OCD. ERP (CBT) Didn't help. I'm thinking of EMDR therapy. (I have Pure-O and Real Event OCD)

I tried CBT/ ERP multiple time with no-benefit. I have AuDHD and OCD. (Autism and ADHD) I probably have CPTSD too from trauma

My OCD is pure-O and Real Event-OCD; so kinda atypical-OCD :/

UK NHS Exposure and response prevention therapy seems the only therapy offered for OCD. I wish alternatives existed; ERP is CBT and potentially Neurodivergent people don't always get much relief from it. I know others that found it didn't help. Its the "gold standard" but if it doesn't or can't help you the medical service feels like it gaslights you into feeling lazy or just offers more of the same! It takes ages on the NHS. I had a remission window and then it came back with a vengeance! My life is pretty much 24/7 enslaved to OCD

I'm thinking of looking into EMDR. Similarly diagnosed (autistic, AuDHD and OCD) ND friends and acquaintances have recommended it; it might get to the root rather than the symptoms, thoughts? ERP felt formulaic and it didn't really go deep into my OCD "trauma"

Pure-O and Real Event OCD is an horrible combination! Any thoughts on EMDR therapy from anyone Neurodivergent with OCD? I'd appreciate insights!

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FibetyJibets · 46-50, M

Ahem. You mentioned autism. Let me guess: noise problems...of other peoples' uninvited, unwanted, unwelcomed noises that violate your inner self?!!! If this is the case????? you know if it is. If you have problems with the noises, touches, changes, lighting changes, smells, pressures, movements and whereabouts and presence of other people , and in any of those listed, that are uninvited, unwelcomed, unwanted, intrusive, invasive, and that you feel viserally violated by, THEN YOU LIKELY HAVE TRESPASS SENSITIVITY TO TRESPASSING VIOLATING ACTS AND BEHAVIORS OF OTHERS AND WHAT EXTENDS FROM THEM THAT VIOLATED AND INTRUDES, SUCH AS THEIR NOISES. my capitals were emphasis, not "yelling" as some think. I have heard people again and again describe O.C.D. as a monster and other such descriptions, but anyone having problems with exposure therapy not helping, which never helps with trespass sensitivities, makes me suspect trespass sensitivity, which is highly autistic and self protective in nature. FibetyJibets, July 29, 2025

GoldenOldie · 31-35, M

@FibetyJibets hmm I’m not triggered or upset by noise. I dislike noisy pubs and it fucks with my focus and concentration

I have never he’s of trespass sensitivity myself? My main bugbear is real event-OCD

I had heard EMDR helps a number of autistic people who have “OCD” I got diagnosed 16-17 years back as having OCD

(Real Event OCD subtype)

Specifically with my OCD:
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A stranger online gaslighted me using multiple fake personas to make me feel “responsible” for “two friends are trying to kill themselves” and made it look like a pile-on attack was happening to me. I ended up quitting the site…

I had a breakdown, I couldn’t sit my exam, I kept worrying that these “friends” had *died* 💀 of their injuries. Yearssss later I found out that the fake accounts (didn’t know was fake at the time) that was then messaging me were all using pics of scene kid models. They were *all* fake accounts in other words!

Problem is - it f**ks with my head… still!😢

But even though I know the accounts are all fake - I can’t *prove* what they *said* was a f**ked up lie; or can I?

I kinda seek certainty, closure or weird-reassurance in messed up ways like researching the fake accounts, combing obits and trawling mortality databases and dark shit that makes me feel temporary relief (but only sometimes) mostly the toxic guilt and sense of anxiety over: “was I responsible?”

F**ks with my head! I kinda deep-down *want* to accept that some messed up teenager halfway around the globe was trolling me with multiple fakes because they themselves are f**ked up in the head…

I know facts about the culprit themselves btw. They are a horrible person.

I found the user on an anon-forum and they *admitted* (I tricked her into trusting me) to having 200 accounts, moving these fakes of theirs from MySpace to Facebook (Feb ‘09 MySpace was where it happened; my “event” date) and pretty much they admitted to making lies (a few I know of are; taking a models car-crash photos to pass off as their own car crash. Taking photos of a baby in an open casket to pass off as their own child loss. Taking gross, graphic SH pics off some sick-online-challenge to pass off as theirs. Taking pics of babies and kids to pass off as theirs. They pretty much they said they faked a s**cide “attempt” with one girl (a fake) that might not be my experience, so it adds questions (my experience involved “two friends” tryin’ to k*ll thems*lves and potentially dying💀 - that’s my biggest fear; someone actually dying - which is f**ked-up because in order for it to be true I need to believe that a bunch of fake accounts told me the *truth* - which is extremely unlikely)

So yeah… rant/vent/dump over…