I Have a Narcissistic Family Member

Hi, I'm struggling with detoxifying my life but find that after years of being in relationships with, taught and raised by narcissists this struggle is proving to be extremely difficult. I'm trying to make steps but am facing loneliness while I try to find healthy people to make relationships.

I recently (a year ago) stumbled on Youtube videos describing NPD and NPD relationships and years and years of anxiety I felt and certain events/situations in my life started making sense. I had been raised in certain way and was being attracted to people and situations that had NPD dynamics.

I have a small family which makes it worse. Everyday I think about what is going to happen when my non-NPD family members are gone and I'm just left with the NPD ones later in life. These family members give me the silent treatment, change the subject
while I'm talking and don't interact with me or show empathy unless they need something.

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blueumbrella · 31-35, F

Be strong. You can rely on your non-NPD family members for a while, and even on healthy people and friends from outside your family, but ultimately you have to learn to rely only on yourself. You have to be independent and self-reliant, coz lots of time, even the healthy people won't be there when you need them, at those times, you have to rely on yourself. Trust yourself more and learn to stand on your ground. Don't be weak, be strong, dear.
I've been through all that and now the NPD person cannot trap me no matter how much they try. I always maintain a safe distance from them and have been able to leave the past, not completely, i do have my rough days, but i rely on myself and i know and trust myself.
All that you need from anyone else is within you. All you need is to trust yourself and your decisions.

nymeria · 100+, F

Thank you,Blue. Good advice.

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