I see people through this "they are a narcissist" label at anyone doing anything they don't like.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder is actually a very rare neurological disorder. It develops in childhood through a lack of self-regulation properly developing in one domain, which has a domino effect of negatively impacting the regulation of a second and so on. Due to the impact on pro social domains, this affects an individual's ability to empathize and properly form bonds, to such a deep level that the affected individual cannot produce certain chemicals that a neurotypical will excrete during a bonding process. This is why they can very easily discard. As a result of this lack of self-regulation in multiple domains, the individual may be assessed to exhibit enough personality traits present on the "cluster b" spectrum in order to be diagnosed with it.

Again, it is a very rare condition. The brain of the affected individual developed their neural networks during childhood in a disordered way. Not everyone who ever does anything you don't like is a "narcissist". It would be like calling anyone you like "bipolar", or "schizophrenic". I'm sure you'd appreciate not being called schizophrenic.

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zonavar68 · 56-60, M

I'm neuro divergent (so other people tell me) but do NOT have any NPD since I am very empathetic, accepting of differences, and respectful.

How you describe the background reasoning for what may be a cause of NPD in someone is a perfect description of why I believe I cannot adequately do friendships, adult dating/love/romantic/sexual/intimate relationships, sex in general, don't understand the reason why human female boobs are sexualised, do not like receiving oral sex, find masturbation and orgasms generally unpleasant and unworthy, and plenty more things like prefering to be alone and socially isolated.

ie. "It develops in childhood through a lack of self-regulation properly developing in one domain, which has a domino effect of negatively impacting the regulation of a second and so on. Due to the impact on pro social domains, this affects an individual's ability to empathize and properly form bonds, to such a deep level that the affected individual cannot produce certain chemicals that a neurotypical will excrete during a bonding process."

Also since I never had a good childhood family experience with parents always fighting and then divorcing when I was 12 I've seem things like marriage, etc. as 'permanently negative' concepts.

None of this makes me a 'bad human'. I just have a combo of early childhood experiences that create how I am today (at age 56). I'm very intolerant of people with NPD, who have a chonic/toxic 'entitlment complex' and/or 'god complex' and/or who are disrespectful.

Therealsteve · 31-35, M

@zonavar68 I can relate to some of that.