Narrative Change Covert Narcissists
Covert narcissists usually change their narrative about you & betray you once you find them out. I know. I've had it happen to me, even recently. Here are example scenarios.
It all starts with the love bombing & grooming. All those fake "nice", glittery & flowery words. Knowing that really nobody likes or cares about YOU (the victim), they come off as some "rescuer/savior" & come at a time when you're the most vulnerable, hopeless & defenseless. Telling you stuff like,
-"You're a beautiful soul."
-"You're full of light & an angel sent from God."
-"You have a heart of gold."
-"You don't realize how much you inspire people."
-"You're my favorite."
-"I told you, I'm not like other guys. Watch, you'll see."
-"No, don't lose that weight! I like a lil' extra meat on a woman."
-"Oh, you're not being a negative complainer. You NEED someone to vent to & get everything off your chest. Remember I told you that I'm NOT like everybody else? Don't worry about them!"
-"You're HIGHLY intelligent but just misunderstood. That's all!"
& they do stuff like leading you on to think you 2 are perfect friends. Or like he's the ideal man you've been looking for that you want to marry someday. A narcissistic control freak fake friend would lead you on to think that you can confide in her to tell her all of your hurts, weaknesses, secrets, accomplishments, etc. She'll leave you to think that you're free, safe & secure enough to get to tell her any & everything without judgment. They keep lying to you, telling you that everything is OK. They pretend to have patience with you, & nothing you do or say bothers or offends them. Some of them complain about their problems more than you do about yours.
Then, DURING the so-called "friendship" or "relationship", when you caught on to something crooked that they tried to do, & you confronted them about it, -OR- another type of scenario where you're having an emotional crisis & meltdown & feeling nearly suicidal (depending on how weak or strong the victim is), is when the fake narc attacks you & shocks you even more. Telling you,
-that they never DID like you,
-that you're always too negative, energy-draining & complain too much & that you need to learn how to be more "positive (while cringing at anything positive that you do try to speak about),
-that you're always full of drama,
-that they see why you have no friends or family, -that you're Satan, himself,
-that YOU'RE the liar & slanderer (when they're smear campaigning & slandering you, causing you to lose all your support & friends. The few friends you do have left. They even hijack your friends for themselves, & your other former "friends" become their cult followers AKA flying monkeys & turn against you.),
-that you're fat, greedy & eat too much, & that you're Ms. Piggy Pt. 2,
-that you're the worst in bed & the ugliest wife he's ever married,
-that you're crazy, illogical, incoherent, irrational, & that nothing you do or say makes sense,
-that you play the victim & you're trying to seek sympathy, pity, attention, clout/money, etc.,
-that you're sick in the head & need help
& more. Leaving you feel even MORE devastated, shocked, hurt, empty, etc. Making you feel like you can't trust or love anyone anymore. & once they discard you & move on, they all of a sudden have a BRAND NEW, luxury vehicle (that they repeatedly kept telling you not to strive for), a new wife, higher job promotion, & became a deacon in the church, etc. while you're broke, poor & homeless on the streets with your children robbed from you by CPS/DFCS because of a false allegation from the narc husband or his flying monkeys that you're a mentally unstable, unfit parent, etc.
My heart goes out to the many victims/survivors who have been tortured by this abuse that leaves you with mental disorders that make you either overeat or undereat, sleep too much or sleep too little, end up a sloth or having OCD, etc. I'm grateful to learn about narcissistic abuse. Being educated on their tactics help me become mentally stronger, along with Bible reading & prayer, which I need to do more often.
The fake "nice" narcissistic abuser acts like a normal person until he/she decides to turn on you like a vicious pit bull. & then he/she starts to act like an overt narc, & then never go back to being nice to you. Approaching a narc seems like approaching any venomous snake out there. & then they pretend to be the "hurt victims", & you (the target) are not allowed to have a voice. & they front like THEY were "deceived" by YOUR character & use your past weaknesses as a weapon against you & throw them in your face, not even getting the story right, & twisting it to sound nonsensical to make you out to be even MORE "crazy".
Narcissistic abusers, (especially the modern day pharisaical fake "Christian" ones) are the most lethal. They MURDER you with their words! & they walk around trying to play God & delusionally believe that they have the "authority" to judge, condemn & issue out unfair & undeserved "punishments" to their innocent victims. Robbing us of our basic human rights that they don't have the power, authority or right to take away from us in the first place!
Oh, & watch out. Many victims of narcissistic abuse have become Targeted Individuals, being Gang Stalked & tortured with Directed Energy Weapons, to be a Masonic, Satanic blood sacrifice.
It all starts with the love bombing & grooming. All those fake "nice", glittery & flowery words. Knowing that really nobody likes or cares about YOU (the victim), they come off as some "rescuer/savior" & come at a time when you're the most vulnerable, hopeless & defenseless. Telling you stuff like,
-"You're a beautiful soul."
-"You're full of light & an angel sent from God."
-"You have a heart of gold."
-"You don't realize how much you inspire people."
-"You're my favorite."
-"I told you, I'm not like other guys. Watch, you'll see."
-"No, don't lose that weight! I like a lil' extra meat on a woman."
-"Oh, you're not being a negative complainer. You NEED someone to vent to & get everything off your chest. Remember I told you that I'm NOT like everybody else? Don't worry about them!"
-"You're HIGHLY intelligent but just misunderstood. That's all!"
& they do stuff like leading you on to think you 2 are perfect friends. Or like he's the ideal man you've been looking for that you want to marry someday. A narcissistic control freak fake friend would lead you on to think that you can confide in her to tell her all of your hurts, weaknesses, secrets, accomplishments, etc. She'll leave you to think that you're free, safe & secure enough to get to tell her any & everything without judgment. They keep lying to you, telling you that everything is OK. They pretend to have patience with you, & nothing you do or say bothers or offends them. Some of them complain about their problems more than you do about yours.
Then, DURING the so-called "friendship" or "relationship", when you caught on to something crooked that they tried to do, & you confronted them about it, -OR- another type of scenario where you're having an emotional crisis & meltdown & feeling nearly suicidal (depending on how weak or strong the victim is), is when the fake narc attacks you & shocks you even more. Telling you,
-that they never DID like you,
-that you're always too negative, energy-draining & complain too much & that you need to learn how to be more "positive (while cringing at anything positive that you do try to speak about),
-that you're always full of drama,
-that they see why you have no friends or family, -that you're Satan, himself,
-that YOU'RE the liar & slanderer (when they're smear campaigning & slandering you, causing you to lose all your support & friends. The few friends you do have left. They even hijack your friends for themselves, & your other former "friends" become their cult followers AKA flying monkeys & turn against you.),
-that you're fat, greedy & eat too much, & that you're Ms. Piggy Pt. 2,
-that you're the worst in bed & the ugliest wife he's ever married,
-that you're crazy, illogical, incoherent, irrational, & that nothing you do or say makes sense,
-that you play the victim & you're trying to seek sympathy, pity, attention, clout/money, etc.,
-that you're sick in the head & need help
& more. Leaving you feel even MORE devastated, shocked, hurt, empty, etc. Making you feel like you can't trust or love anyone anymore. & once they discard you & move on, they all of a sudden have a BRAND NEW, luxury vehicle (that they repeatedly kept telling you not to strive for), a new wife, higher job promotion, & became a deacon in the church, etc. while you're broke, poor & homeless on the streets with your children robbed from you by CPS/DFCS because of a false allegation from the narc husband or his flying monkeys that you're a mentally unstable, unfit parent, etc.
My heart goes out to the many victims/survivors who have been tortured by this abuse that leaves you with mental disorders that make you either overeat or undereat, sleep too much or sleep too little, end up a sloth or having OCD, etc. I'm grateful to learn about narcissistic abuse. Being educated on their tactics help me become mentally stronger, along with Bible reading & prayer, which I need to do more often.
The fake "nice" narcissistic abuser acts like a normal person until he/she decides to turn on you like a vicious pit bull. & then he/she starts to act like an overt narc, & then never go back to being nice to you. Approaching a narc seems like approaching any venomous snake out there. & then they pretend to be the "hurt victims", & you (the target) are not allowed to have a voice. & they front like THEY were "deceived" by YOUR character & use your past weaknesses as a weapon against you & throw them in your face, not even getting the story right, & twisting it to sound nonsensical to make you out to be even MORE "crazy".
Narcissistic abusers, (especially the modern day pharisaical fake "Christian" ones) are the most lethal. They MURDER you with their words! & they walk around trying to play God & delusionally believe that they have the "authority" to judge, condemn & issue out unfair & undeserved "punishments" to their innocent victims. Robbing us of our basic human rights that they don't have the power, authority or right to take away from us in the first place!
Oh, & watch out. Many victims of narcissistic abuse have become Targeted Individuals, being Gang Stalked & tortured with Directed Energy Weapons, to be a Masonic, Satanic blood sacrifice.
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