How to heal from narcissistic relationship when there is no justice [I Want To Spread Narcissism Awareness]

@CestManan Not really, I know some narcssists themselves call their own victims narcissits,narcissits will accuse you of doing to them exacly what they are doing to you,I lived with one,I know and his family covered for him,he now has another partner and his nephew I reconnected with on Facebook told me he had not changed one iota,narcs never change.

@berangere Rather than try to change them, why not just quit associating with them.

And about labels, we know this -
Every child who doesn't have the discipline of a soldier is "Autistic"
Everyone who is even slightly overweight is "diabetic".
And of course, whenever someone doesn't like someone else, they point at each other and say "narcissist".

I suppose *I* am narcissist for making this post.

@CestManan Not at all,you are not a narcissist for making this post,you are entitled to your opinion.As not to associate with them is rather difficult in some cases,someone who has been abused as a child will not have healthy boundaries,will show their vulnerability,and the narcs will literally smell it,narcs are predators,they push your boundaries to see how far they can abuse you before you leave the relationship,sadly only people with healthy self esteem and boundaries will do that those who lack them will put up with abuse as their due and because it feels so familiar to them.I suggest you read up on victims of abuse and narcissistic personality disorder. Thank you for your participation.

@rottenrobi Very well said,I was the scapegoat in my "family" so called, practically since my birth having been labelled "the war accident"so I had no boundaries and narcs knew that,friends or partners,I wanted them to love me like I wanted my family to love me so I became a people pleaser,but narcs do not love,they exploit so I was selling myself down river and like you I will never allow that again,but I want to raise awareness of this scourge as it seems many people enable narcissists and tend to put the blame on their victims,mostly those who have not experienced that kind of abuse,as they tend to take the moral high ground.

@Keepitsimple Good advise,thank you!

@berangere Blame does often fall on the victim, and causes even more shame and insecurity.
I definitely enabled my narcissist and helped to create a sick situation. He took complete advantage of it though, and more.
I respect you wanting to raise awareness. It is important. Not everyone knows the signs. They don't know to run.

@SW-User Exactly this is what the narcissist will do deflect on their victims,put the blame on others.

@berangere So then we don't really know who is or isn't unless diagnosed

@SW-User I don't believe one can actually "diagnose" a narcissists,there are different types of narcissists,we can recognise them by their behaviour and how they treat people but some are so clever at hiding their games only their victims know who they are.

@SW-User No, they don't sadly,the trauma of living with a narcissist for any amount of time is too great.

@berangere They have a weakness. They usually are exposed after the mask comes off. Then they fall. That's why they are called narcissists. They devour themselves. 🙂

@Zonuss Yes the mask can fall off eventually when they get old,but think of all the destruction they leave in their wake.People need to be made aware about them if only to recognise the red flags and get away from them as fast as possible.

@Zonuss Of course when the mask comes off, the hypochondriacs who freak out over covid-19 rally around and start calling them murderers and what not.

@SkeetSkeet Yes I agree this is probably the only justice we can expect.