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Insanity: doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result

How many apologies would you accept for the same behavior over and over?
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FoxyQueen · 51-55, F
One. An apology means an agreement and plan to change. If they have done neither, they have broken an agreement.

(Source - Google AI)

A good apology involves sincere remorse, accepting responsibility, and making amends for the harm caused. It's about acknowledging the mistake, expressing regret, and taking steps to prevent it from happening again.
Here's a breakdown of what makes a good apology:
1. Acknowledging the Mistake:
Specifically state what you're sorry for:
Avoid vague phrases like "I'm sorry you feel that way." Instead, be specific about the action or words you regret.
Take responsibility:
Don't make excuses or shift blame. Acknowledge that you were wrong and that you caused harm.
Express remorse and regret:
Use phrases like "I'm really sorry," "I deeply regret," or "I feel terrible about what happened" to show genuine sorrow.
2. Making Amends:
Repair the damage:
Offer to make things right. This could be anything from replacing a broken item to offering extra support or time.
Communicate your commitment to change:
Explain what you'll do differently in the future to avoid repeating the mistake.
3. Sincerity and Humility:
Be sincere:
Avoid sounding insincere or robotic. Your tone of voice and body language should convey genuine remorse.
Be humble:
Acknowledge that you were wrong and that you're willing to learn from your mistake.
4. Asking for Forgiveness (Optional):
Request forgiveness: Let the person know that you understand they might need time to process their feelings and that you're open to their perspective.
Examples of Effective Apologies:
"I am so sorry for what I said. I know it was hurtful, and I deeply regret it. I will do my best to communicate with more care in the future."
"I messed up. I should have considered your feelings before I made that comment. I'm truly sorry, and I hope you can forgive me."
Ambroseguy80 · 56-60, M
I can tell you that I’m pretty far along in that practice. 😄

Wouldn’t do it more than a few times for non-family though.
WindTherapy · 56-60, M
We are creatures of habit. Some habits we never really break. Then the question is how many are you willing to accept? I don't have a good answer here. :(
JonUK41 · 36-40, M
There was a line in a James Bond movie that summed this up

Once is an accident

Twice could be a coincidence

Third time is enemy action

So 3 times if you're feeling generous.
skmokisses · 46-50, F
@JonUK41 I actually love this!!
JonUK41 · 36-40, M
@skmokisses I'm sure plenty of guys here will recognise the movie and how I've mangled the quote

The lessons the same.
Captain · 61-69, M
1 - that was easy
Degbeme · 70-79, M
I don`t know. How many are you offering me? 😬🤭
JackHoff · 46-50, M
FloorGenAdm · 51-55, M
What if the boss forces you to do it over and over?
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Fertilization · 36-40, F
It’s foolish to test someone who’s already proven themselves.

 
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