Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
I think you're right to be concerned.
Hard enough to be dealing with your own grief at such a time without the worry of perhaps being homeless; penniless and maybe even in weak health yourself by then.
I suppose the obvious thing is to seek independent advice.
There must be many people who have had to deal with exactly this scenario before you out there.
Hard enough to be dealing with your own grief at such a time without the worry of perhaps being homeless; penniless and maybe even in weak health yourself by then.
I suppose the obvious thing is to seek independent advice.
There must be many people who have had to deal with exactly this scenario before you out there.
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whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M
There are books out called "End of life planners".. Or you can just buy a sectioned note book from your local dollar store and write " "Not my problem. But here is what you need to know to clean up my mess" On the front cover.
Then list all the things that need to be sorted out and all the details needed to fill in all those forms. Include all your bank accounts and how to cancel everything ferom the electicity to yout Amazon prime account. Even list the clothes you wish to be farewelled in and who gets the car and the golf clubs..
Your worries are over. But a book like this can form a moral compass and sort out a lot of angst in the family at a very stressful time for those you leave behind.. I am doing it myself now..😷
Then list all the things that need to be sorted out and all the details needed to fill in all those forms. Include all your bank accounts and how to cancel everything ferom the electicity to yout Amazon prime account. Even list the clothes you wish to be farewelled in and who gets the car and the golf clubs..
Your worries are over. But a book like this can form a moral compass and sort out a lot of angst in the family at a very stressful time for those you leave behind.. I am doing it myself now..😷
Very naive of him to feel it would be a long time before you’d need to think about those things. One serious illness is all it would take. I’d keep after him to take care of anything that can be done right now and get some kind of plan in place for anything else you can. Might not be a bad idea to sit down with a financial planner. And an attorney if you don’t have your wills, health care proxies, etc. in order. It’s your future at stake. You need to advocate for it.
HoeBag · 46-50, F
Often times when people are older, especially if they are real close to "that" day, they will be stubborn about taking care of the mess of paperwork. I remember my mom always saying, "I don't want to talk about that right now".
At some point after even age 40, thinking about "the future" is not pleasant. I just wonder what people do when they do not have enough money. I will most likely be in that position myself.
At some point after even age 40, thinking about "the future" is not pleasant. I just wonder what people do when they do not have enough money. I will most likely be in that position myself.
whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M
@Northwest There are also free downloadable will kits on line, with instructions on any tricky points. Just be careful you download one for your own jurisdiction. If all you have is a simple estate and uncomplicated wishes, that will cover it..😷
MarineBob · 56-60, M
As already said look into a pre planned, let them do 100% of the work for and worrying for you