Wife’s depression

My wife can suffer long bouts of depression that Center on where her life is and what she’s missed out.
She feels her weight caused her so many problems growing up and her housebound current state means she can’t do anything.
She has alienated friends and family and I’m not enough to make her not feel lonely.
She treats the depression with huge food binges that help at that moment but leave her disgusted afterward so she eats again.
She really needs an understanding friend

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riseofthemachine · 41-45, M

Can I tell you something that will help your wife and please don't be offended .
Tell her search up on the internet the closest " Overeater Anonymous meeting" in your area .
Tell her go there and they'll look after her .
There's a 12 step program there ' in time she"ll do that .
They"ll give her a food plan when she gets in there, a plan for her daily food .
What not to eat and what food triggers she has that make her go on her food binge .
Its all to do with low self esteem and that triggers everything.
I go to another 12 step program meeting .
I'm sober 19 years . I didn't go near weed for 19 years and only for 12 step meetings I would of committed suicide.
In her case you could have a football stadium of people around you in your life and you could feel the loneliness person in the world .
That's where she's at . Its a low self esteem issues .
So my friend bring her to an Overeater Anonymous meeting. There's meetings online and face to face meeting .
She needs the face to face meetings at the start to get to know people and for them to get to know her , otherwise if she don't go she be on the vicious cycle of binges and feeling crap every time she do it .
I promise you , you and your wife will have a great life is she does that .
You can message me private to leave me know how she gets on

Willomk1 · 46-50, M

However she’s bed ridden@riseofthemachine

riseofthemachine · 41-45, M

@Willomk1 that's the progression .
After a binge of drinking before I could spend 17 hours a day in bed, complete blackness I had for years . I thought there was no way out.
Also I got so bad from binges of drink my mind use to tell me I be better of dead and that cycle kept going for years at the end of my drinking and the most worst thinking of the mind that came in was no one loved me even tho I had people around me .
Try make her get out of the bed and tell her do that . Her life will improve drastically cause she be able to relate to people in meetings and she won't feel alone ( no offended now you are a great husband ) but she probably feels alone especially with the mental torment that what's her mind is feeding her . I can relate to her . I wouldn't being saying it otherwise cause I know how serious it is giving up on life .
Get her out of the bed my friend and bring her there . You look up the meetings near by you and bring her there . You have to if you want a happy relationship and you be happy also cause all of that is a lot to carry on your own cause you find anything you do you have no answers for her .
The meetings is where it all begins my friend

riseofthemachine · 41-45, M

@Willomk1 Leave know how she gets on .
I bet there be a bit of her spirit back when she goes in there

Willomk1 · 46-50, M

Thank you@riseofthemachine