Wife’s depression

My wife can suffer long bouts of depression that Center on where her life is and what she’s missed out.
She feels her weight caused her so many problems growing up and her housebound current state means she can’t do anything.
She has alienated friends and family and I’m not enough to make her not feel lonely.
She treats the depression with huge food binges that help at that moment but leave her disgusted afterward so she eats again.
She really needs an understanding friend

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elafina · 36-40, F

Mhm you the other day was talking about how you want to enable her to eat more.. I'm sorry about your situation anyways.
Your efforts are beautiful. But do you accept yourself at the same time..

Willomk1 · 46-50, M

I do enable her to get fatter and a lot of the time she’s content and eating, but she does sometime suffer@elafina

elafina · 36-40, F

@Willomk1 she's getting everything from edible physical food. Food is many things. We *eat* many things, from others, the environment, our thoughts, information, etc. Of course she is sad because she is eating everything through her mouth.
We need lots of more varieties of *foods* to feel whole.....
But I can understand how hard this can be. Do you have any plan, or you will go along with whatever comes..

Willomk1 · 46-50, M

Hard to plan when her care and food take up so much time, I have to do everything for her@elafina

elafina · 36-40, F

@Willomk1 you either look for professional help as Jenny pointed here.. or you accept all that this way of living will bring.
Make sure to look after yourself please

Willomk1 · 46-50, M

It’s true she is very unhealthy but part of her has given up@elafina

Willomk1 · 46-50, M

She as lost a lot due to her size@elafina

elafina · 36-40, F

@Willomk1 you've got a choice too, to leave her and move on.

Willomk1 · 46-50, M

She wouldn’t cope without me she can’t stand without help
@elafina

Willomk1 · 46-50, M

@elafina better to feed and look after her

Willomk1 · 46-50, M

I wish I could make her happier@elafina

elafina · 36-40, F

@Willomk1 I might seem like a pig who understands nothing of compassion. But since I'm talking to you, I just want to make sure that you are aware that there are choices to be made.
One is to perpetuate the situation. Feed her and feed the situation and stay to experience the downhill race if that's what you need to do. It's okay even that you know?
I know joy can be found in many places.

Then there's the other choice to try to stir the wheel. It's difficult but it seems like they say you got to choose which difficult you want to live.
I'm really sorry if I appear judgemental, it's not my intention really.

Willomk1 · 46-50, M

I get what your saying but the choices don’t see feasible and I can try to enjoy the time we have@elafina

elafina · 36-40, F

@Willomk1 then do that my dear... And within this journey, I'll say it once more, try to take care of yourself.

Willomk1 · 46-50, M

Thankyou I will try will see if she makes her goal for x mass@elafina