Feeling super lonely. [I Am Depressed]

I know why - it's a combination of my most valued social interactions (going to warhammer) and stuff which is kind of more complicated.

For most of my adult life, some part of me has wanted a family, and approaching 30, it's pretty clear at this point that it's not likely to happen. And longing for something that isn't going to come - death, love, affection, intimacy - is something I'm trying to work through (but not doing too well at).

I have been wondering whether the former has exacerbated the latter, but no conclusion has been reached.

There's really no expectation or need for anyone to actually see this, so please don't waste your time on my trivial bullshit.

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BlueJuneTwilight · 31-35, F

There is no reason you wouldn't be able to have a family! I only finally met the love of my life and I was about to turn thirty at the time! Now we are super happy.

I had been holding onto an ex for no particular reason other than we had been together for 5 years and I wasn't wanting to let go. I felt so small after he abandoned me to move across the country. I would still talk to him, he would still call me my nicknames, lead me on, be neglectful, etc and it was all just very unhealthy.

Finally at age 29, 1 year and 2 months after we broke up, I told him this was enough. "I need to be my own person now. We can't talk anymore. I am finally done and I am going to be free." I had to start ALL over again and pick up the pieces of my broken heart at age 29 1/2. That same month, after I had finally and genuinely decided I was going to be happy and single for a while, I met the love of my life. They always come when you least expect it!

This same thing will happen to you. I just know it. As long as you can learn to be happy with yourself and happy alone, someone will come surprise you when you least expect it. But until then, know that you are still young and age is just a number.

SW-User

@BlueJuneTwilight I'm glad you found them. I'm 29 in April, and I've never dated anyone in real life. No woman has ever wanted me, and somehow I don't see that changing any time soon.

Despite what it seems, I am pretty OK with being alone; it's something I'm just sort of used to. But being alone forever is daunting and really depressing when there seems like there's no way out. So why fight it.

BlueJuneTwilight · 31-35, F

@SW-User Well, I am not suggesting you fight it. But I'm suggesting you may well yet still be surprised. I would suggest you look inward at all you have to offer a woman, and then let it outward and don't hide it! Because there is a woman out there who needs and craves those things who is also lonely and deserving of love. I guess I wouldn't give up if I were you! And definitely give yourself more love. You deserve more than you give yourself credit for. ❤