What would make a parent lie about their childhood to their own children? [I Am Depressed]

Our mother has always told us that she was from a perfect family. She would use her own example to shame Us for getting into fights with one another, or not being tidy enough or organized enough. A lot of it was out of our hands as all of us lived in one room without any storage space.
But as we grew older we started to see the cracks in her story. She still lies. What's wrong with saying you're not perfect?

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novembermoon · 51-55

Hi! Yes, of course there is no 'perfect' family, as you have pointed out. It is an illusion. I feel a lot of it has to do with 'face' - the kind of facade that a parent may project to the rest of the world, even to her children, so that they would learn to aspire towards it as well. I do not appreciate being told an untruth, especially by a parent, so I think it really must hurt. I might even despise the parent who is doing it and think that she is too self-righteousness. But at the same time, inside me, I might feel guilty for being so judgmental on my parent as well. It's not easy at all.