What would make a parent lie about their childhood to their own children? [I Am Depressed]

Our mother has always told us that she was from a perfect family. She would use her own example to shame Us for getting into fights with one another, or not being tidy enough or organized enough. A lot of it was out of our hands as all of us lived in one room without any storage space.
But as we grew older we started to see the cracks in her story. She still lies. What's wrong with saying you're not perfect?

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bijouxbroussard · F

Only she would know for certain, but it could be because she’s ashamed of the reality of her own childhood and wants you to strive for better. There’s another possibility. My mother’s family was poor, and while there was a lot of love (and I witnessed it), there also was a fair amount of conflict because of alcoholism, and to this day my mother won’t even touch wine. She didn’t tell me these things until most of her family members were gone. She didn’t want me to judge them.

assemblingaknob · 26-30, F

@bijouxbroussard Thank you!