I Am Depressed
I really want to get out of this rut in life. I really need some help. Has anyone else battled depression that can maybe help? Maybe we can help each other.
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Existentior · M
All right, let's see. I've been in and out of ruts (or maybe I haven't been out of them fully yet), so I might be able to provide some advice.
The first thing I can say is that it takes a strong amount of discipline, great respect for yourself and awareness of the situation. Like you, I find it incredibly hard to change a habit, but you have to force yourself if you want to get a better life. I can tell the difference between failure and success and the fooling that your own mind does to you because last year at Newyears I promised myself things that I ended up not doing or achieving at all for an entire year. I was quite disappointed in myself. Now, this year, I'm finally taking the steps to improve my life. A small example: going to the gym regularly and never quitting. It's hard, it's urgh, but I'll do it even if I don't feel like it. I need to get somewhere.
Let's apply the management principles:
1) What situation am I in? What is the rut about?
2) Where do I want to be? Future desires, plans.
3) How do I get there? Actions to take.
For me, it was:
1) I'm currently working a job. It's not bad, it's not great, but it pays the bills and allows me for a decent amount of comfort.
2) I want to make enough income on the side so that I can eventually live life without working and retire early.
3) I will need creative, alternative sources of income.
3.1) Look up on the internet in what ways I can make money.
3.2) If these methods require learning a trade, then learn the trade.
And so I'm working on 3.2 - learning the trade skills. If I want to make side money by selling my art in the form of drawings or photography, I will have to be distinguishable enough first so that people will want to buy my art - and that takes learning, time and perfection, but it definitely takes time.
Try to apply these 3 steps to your problem. Also, watch this motivational video:
[youtube=https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OgKhXzcS70w]
What is your depression about?
The first thing I can say is that it takes a strong amount of discipline, great respect for yourself and awareness of the situation. Like you, I find it incredibly hard to change a habit, but you have to force yourself if you want to get a better life. I can tell the difference between failure and success and the fooling that your own mind does to you because last year at Newyears I promised myself things that I ended up not doing or achieving at all for an entire year. I was quite disappointed in myself. Now, this year, I'm finally taking the steps to improve my life. A small example: going to the gym regularly and never quitting. It's hard, it's urgh, but I'll do it even if I don't feel like it. I need to get somewhere.
Let's apply the management principles:
1) What situation am I in? What is the rut about?
2) Where do I want to be? Future desires, plans.
3) How do I get there? Actions to take.
For me, it was:
1) I'm currently working a job. It's not bad, it's not great, but it pays the bills and allows me for a decent amount of comfort.
2) I want to make enough income on the side so that I can eventually live life without working and retire early.
3) I will need creative, alternative sources of income.
3.1) Look up on the internet in what ways I can make money.
3.2) If these methods require learning a trade, then learn the trade.
And so I'm working on 3.2 - learning the trade skills. If I want to make side money by selling my art in the form of drawings or photography, I will have to be distinguishable enough first so that people will want to buy my art - and that takes learning, time and perfection, but it definitely takes time.
Try to apply these 3 steps to your problem. Also, watch this motivational video:
[youtube=https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OgKhXzcS70w]
What is your depression about?