I Battle Depression
Feel like I should talk about this a bit because many people don't seem to understand how to deal with someone who is depressed. Initially you get people suggesting you get out more, hang out with friends, get a change of scenery. This usually evolves into splurging on something, taking a vacation, learn a new (insert anything), volunteer for a few months, etc. These all sound like very positive steps.
But they aren't always feasible. Sure, "getting out more" can give a temporary boost, but in reality depression will keep people from engaging in these activities. If it's hard to get out of bed or shower, why would going out on the town with some friends be easy? Then comes the rest, many people suffering with depression don't have trust funds or lottery winnings to dip into whenever they're at their worst. Buying something unnecessary can be a hefty boost, but you may not have the funds for that. Volunteering can be a positive experience, but going homeless because you aren't making money is not. Vacation? Not a chance for most.
So yes, people with depression need support, but surface level platitudes designed to make YOU feel better don't help the one with depression. Listen a bit, put yourself in their shoes, and say something from the heart.
But they aren't always feasible. Sure, "getting out more" can give a temporary boost, but in reality depression will keep people from engaging in these activities. If it's hard to get out of bed or shower, why would going out on the town with some friends be easy? Then comes the rest, many people suffering with depression don't have trust funds or lottery winnings to dip into whenever they're at their worst. Buying something unnecessary can be a hefty boost, but you may not have the funds for that. Volunteering can be a positive experience, but going homeless because you aren't making money is not. Vacation? Not a chance for most.
So yes, people with depression need support, but surface level platitudes designed to make YOU feel better don't help the one with depression. Listen a bit, put yourself in their shoes, and say something from the heart.
