Lostpoet · M
Dude, man, you have plenty to offer. I can already tell by the way you structure your thoughts that you are smart. My advice would be to write a list of little things you can do to get out of you comfort zone and talk to people, do a couple of them a day, small things like asking someone for the time or giving a cashier a compliment the next time you by something and work your way up.
notmyusualusername · 41-45, M
@Lostpoet Thank you for that, though I have a hard time trying to agree with anyone when they say I'm smart. I always tell them that if I was so smart I would have never let myself fall into this situation. I don't exactly consider it smart to quit school, get fired from the only job I've ever had, then spend the next 15 years or more doing nothing. It's also not smart to push away the only two women that have ever given me a legit chance. So yeah, maybe it's just my horrible self esteem but I can't call myself smart. As for the comfort zone, I just can't break free of that.
notmyusualusername · 41-45, M
@Lostpoet Yeah I'm not exactly that good when it comes to talking to people. I never know what to say or do, and always just freeze up or go blank when trying to talk to just about anyone. Also due to my anxiety, I have a horrible time doing any sort of real time chat with people unless I get to know them and feel comfortable with them. My low self esteem doesn't help much either, so I've always felt like I just have nothing to offer.
@karysma Yes I know just what you mean. I guess in a way I just can't fully be happy without others, yet I also know that the odds of someone making that much of a difference are really bad. It's part of the reason I feel like I'm stuck in an endless cycle, I can't find happiness within myself yet I doubt that I can truly find happiness within someone else too.
@zeeva70 Thank you very much. I've been trying to find a nice place where I feel I can belong, so maybe this will be it.
@karysma Yes I know just what you mean. I guess in a way I just can't fully be happy without others, yet I also know that the odds of someone making that much of a difference are really bad. It's part of the reason I feel like I'm stuck in an endless cycle, I can't find happiness within myself yet I doubt that I can truly find happiness within someone else too.
@zeeva70 Thank you very much. I've been trying to find a nice place where I feel I can belong, so maybe this will be it.
karysma · 36-40, F
I was in your shoes once upon a time and that was until I got comfortable with being by myself that I found peace. If your happiness depend on other people you'll never be truly happy and even if you find that special someone you wouldn't be happy if you are not happy on your own. You know what I mean.
zeeva70 · F
Welcome to SW!!! You'll be in good company because most of us have fought or are currently fighting depression and loneliness everyday.
Another personel for SW depression army
Lostpoet · M
Very nice piece, man. I hope you do find someone special. You really didn't go into detail of why you feel like you'll be alone forever. Do you just have crap social skills like me?