Anyone else here dealing with dementia As a care giver?

I co/ take care of my ex-husband's father whom I still call dad. His dementia is progressing. And it is getting more difficult since his wife passed away and I cannot be there full-time. He Is a great man and did much for many when he was capable. Between work and everything else I have to take care of, I've lost Myself in all this. But I'm gaining perspective and Getting some self-care. I need to be good for me, So I can take care of everyone else. But if there is anything I can do to make life a little better for him until we can decide upon home care or facility care, I'd like to try to make him as comfortable as possible and have the best care. Thank you in advance for your feedback , experiences, kind words and help. Its greatly appreciated.💗

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Heartlander · 80-89, M

(Raising hand)

Yes.

There are different causes of dementia and each has its own characteristics, sort of. It’s possible to have multiple types and somewhat difficult to diagnose to find the exact underlying disease. I would like to think that some are reversible, but have never met anyone who was cured or even got slightly better. Does he have a diagnosis? Or a likely diagnosis? Alzheimer’s? Parkinson’s? LBD?

It’s smart to start getting ready because it will likely progress. And there will likely be a time when he has to be constantly watched and looked after. Some dementias come with other physical ailments that affect muscle control and the ability to stand or walk without assistance or even walki with a walker. That means that people with dementia are at serious risk of falling. What’s worse than dementia? Dementia AND a hip replacement.

I will PM before going further.

LaLumieri · 51-55, F

@Heartlander It's kind of you too give me so much information I appreciate it. I was aware that there are different kinds. Luckily his motor functions are very good he can still shower and even shave with an Electric Shaver But of course everything has to be reminded and prompted sometimes you have to take him through the motions. And I do agree having dementia with some other type of complication would be terrible. At this point if he had a cold I think it would be an extreme complication for him. And you may certainly PM thank you for letting me know