Anyone else here dealing with dementia As a care giver?

I co/ take care of my ex-husband's father whom I still call dad. His dementia is progressing. And it is getting more difficult since his wife passed away and I cannot be there full-time. He Is a great man and did much for many when he was capable. Between work and everything else I have to take care of, I've lost Myself in all this. But I'm gaining perspective and Getting some self-care. I need to be good for me, So I can take care of everyone else. But if there is anything I can do to make life a little better for him until we can decide upon home care or facility care, I'd like to try to make him as comfortable as possible and have the best care. Thank you in advance for your feedback , experiences, kind words and help. Its greatly appreciated.💗

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BizSuitStacy · M

It's difficult. My dad developed a very aggressive form of dementia. I worked full time and couldn't provide the necessary care. I hired in-home care givers. He received better care than he'd have gotten at a nursing home, but it was far more expensive.

LaLumieri · 51-55, F

@BizSuitStacy Thank you for the heads up I was wondering if in home care would be more expenlive than a facility. At the moment he is in his home His son lives only a few feet away from him and I only live 15 minutes away. He is able to care a little bit for himself and function every day But we still have to call him around the clock until we get home to remind him of things and that's how we are working it right now

BizSuitStacy · M

@LaLumieri the problem with nursing homes is there is like 1 care giver to every 12 residents. I did a lot of research, and based on the recommendation of a social worker, I hired a Tongan family. Their culture is very family oriented and value caring for their elders. The women usually provide the care, and it's an important factor to consider, it takes a lot of physical strength to help your aging family member in and out of the shower, bathroom, bed, etc. The care givers have to be physically up to the task once your loved one is unable to get up on their own.

LaLumieri · 51-55, F

@BizSuitStacy Thank you something to consider In the coming months I will do some research of my own I really appreciate this feedback. This is something I had not heard of before. You are truly considerate thinking of our loved one And of ourselves as well