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Anyone else here dealing with dementia As a care giver?

I co/ take care of my ex-husband's father whom I still call dad. His dementia is progressing. And it is getting more difficult since his wife passed away and I cannot be there full-time. He Is a great man and did much for many when he was capable. Between work and everything else I have to take care of, I've lost Myself in all this. But I'm gaining perspective and Getting some self-care. I need to be good for me, So I can take care of everyone else. But if there is anything I can do to make life a little better for him until we can decide upon home care or facility care, I'd like to try to make him as comfortable as possible and have the best care. Thank you in advance for your feedback , experiences, kind words and help. Its greatly appreciated.💗
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My mom had dementia. You definitely need to take good care of yourself I'm glad you know that 🫂 Getting outside help becomes crucial at some point, but mainly keeping him safe and calm. Having someone around doesn't always help him mentally depending how far he's progressed. But help doing tasks and hygiene. Talking to him and listening to him. Ask him questions and just listen even if it's weird. Never argue, they aren't able to understand. It'll just stress him out.

And stay strong. It's a very hard road ahead and you must remember all the wonderful memories you shared. Know they are still in there, even when the person you love seems gone.

Be well 🖤
LaLumieri · 51-55, F
@MarbleMarvel Thank you so much for this and yes I know he's still in there I feel like I'm his memories and I tell him about his life all the time. But a lot of the things you said Make so much sense thank you for caring and taking enough time to write this
@LaLumieri I'm so sorry he's going through it. It is hard for everyone.

And yes, he's in there. My mom knew it was me till the end 🖤
LaLumieri · 51-55, F
@MarbleMarvel Thank you I needed to hear that. I will be there for him till the end I will always be a constant.