Anyone else here dealing with dementia As a care giver?

I co/ take care of my ex-husband's father whom I still call dad. His dementia is progressing. And it is getting more difficult since his wife passed away and I cannot be there full-time. He Is a great man and did much for many when he was capable. Between work and everything else I have to take care of, I've lost Myself in all this. But I'm gaining perspective and Getting some self-care. I need to be good for me, So I can take care of everyone else. But if there is anything I can do to make life a little better for him until we can decide upon home care or facility care, I'd like to try to make him as comfortable as possible and have the best care. Thank you in advance for your feedback , experiences, kind words and help. Its greatly appreciated.💗

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Adrift · 61-69, F

My father developed dementia and he also had hearing loss that made things even harder.
He wanted to stay in his home but it got to the point where it was unsafe for him to live alone.
I would make plans as soon as possible so the transition can be easier for you and for him.

LaLumieri · 51-55, F

@Adrift Thank you also for taking the time out to write my father-in-law also has hearing loss so I do understand the difficulties and how it impacts everything. His hearing AIDS were not working and he was unable to communicate that to us and we thought he was just getting worse mentally when we took him to the audiologist They told us the hearing AIDS were broken once we got them fixed life has been so much better ever since but yes I agree this will be the year we transition him. And I am always up front and honest with him so that way nothing is a shock and everything is as smooth as possible.

Adrift · 61-69, F

@LaLumieri I hope everything goes smoothly with the transition as it is better if they are agreeable.
my father finally had a fall at home and we had to lie to him and tell him he was going to go to stay in rehab after being released from the hospital.
He is stubborn and became paranoid and too difficult to deal with at home.
He lasted about a month until he hit a caregiver and was transferred to a geriatric psychiatric ward.
He never made it out of psyc.

LaLumieri · 51-55, F

@Adrift im so sorry