Anyone else here dealing with dementia As a care giver?

I co/ take care of my ex-husband's father whom I still call dad. His dementia is progressing. And it is getting more difficult since his wife passed away and I cannot be there full-time. He Is a great man and did much for many when he was capable. Between work and everything else I have to take care of, I've lost Myself in all this. But I'm gaining perspective and Getting some self-care. I need to be good for me, So I can take care of everyone else. But if there is anything I can do to make life a little better for him until we can decide upon home care or facility care, I'd like to try to make him as comfortable as possible and have the best care. Thank you in advance for your feedback , experiences, kind words and help. Its greatly appreciated.💗

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whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M

Me. My wife...😷

LaLumieri · 51-55, F

@whowasthatmaskedman I'm sorry you Had to or are going through this. I know how difficult it can be. I hope you have the assistance you need or will need. And as you can see I received a lot of messages from my post hopefully some of them have some good things you can use To get through your days. I wish you only the best

whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M

@LaLumieri Its getting to the point where I will need to do something. But we have coped together for years. Sadly now her moods swings in a heart beat and I get everything in her. Which is a lot.. My daughter is organising her for some overdue medical procedures at the moment that she wouldnt allow me to get her in for. The next few days I have to restrict her food and cleanse her for a gastroscoe and I am dreading what i am going to get as she will want to eat normally and cant..

LaLumieri · 51-55, F

@whowasthatmaskedman My father-in-law Won't eat unless he is prompted. He forgets. I don't know if your wife Maybe just put out only the things that she can have and put the other things away