Remember the parts of her you love. I know it's different, but there was a part of me who loved when I picked up my grandmother when she asked, so where are we going? I said to her, to your daughters and my mothers. She responded with, 'oh she is still alive?" Very engaged and enthusiastic I learned that said a lot more than we can ask. I know it made my mother sad in a different way, but I also know she knew and loved her mum for having that expression.