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Today was tough

Dad has refused to eat or drink all day and has been in an extremely agitated state all day. The hospital finally put him on a saline drip but the next 24 hours are critical. But it is clear he cannot return home. It was really hard explaining this to mum.

My husband is going to bring the kids up tomorrow, my daughter has crucial exams coming up and i think it best she gets the chance to see him now so there are no regrets if she can't in the next few weeks.

Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
♥️ i wish i could think of something positive and helpful to send your way.
But i do sympathise.

I think what you're doing is exactly what I'd do.
@Picklebobble2 thank you
OldBrit · 61-69, M
My mother in law had dementia. Horrid thing. You watch the soul die before the body.
blackarcher256 · 61-69, M
That’s so sad, I’m so sorry you and your family are going through this. I know the agitated state you described. I experienced it with my dad, and felt completely helpless. Making it even worse, he didn’t recognize me or my sister, which only added to his agitation so we couldn’t even comfort him. The doctors made us leave his room until they could sedate him. It was heartbreaking, and something I’ll never forget.
@blackarcher256 he kept asking who he was, aftervtelling him his name i asked if if he knew who i was ... and he said "you're my daughter, you're my life"

He also knew mum was hos wife but didn't know himself
blackarcher256 · 61-69, M
@InOtterWords That’s so sad…But I’m glad he knew who you and your mum are, and hope it gave him some comfort.
@blackarcher256 that is what i hope. I think he was especially reassured by my mum
whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M
I have done this rodeo a couple of times, with my mother in law and my own mother. And it seems my wife will go the same route, but thats still a way off hopefully. I wish I had something hopeful to say on the subject, but I dont. What I can say from experience is that shielding those members of your family who really dont need to be exposed to this is a kindness. Let them remember the person your father used to be. Where he is going totally lacks dignity. Do what you can to allow it to live the memories of those who love him...😷
RubySoo · 56-60, F
So sorry you and yr family are enduring this.
We experienced similar with my mum, I understand how heartbreaking it can be.
Sending love and strength. X
Nebula · 41-45, F
I'm so sorry ☹️ strength and love for you and your family ❤️
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
so sorry, is he on hospice care?
@samueltyler2 we are trying to get him on that
Degbeme · 70-79, M
My thoughts go out to dad and to the family and to you. 🥺🌺
Burnley123 · 41-45, M
My thoughts are with you
Plasticbag · 100+, M
Bless you all. You will always do the right thing for your loved ones xx
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