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Sometimes I wish it was easier

I really do. When my buddy called and asked last minute if we wanted to go to the Royals game I almost said no.

Last minute things are not something my daughter does good with. She doesn't like change and this would be a big one.

She was expecting us to relax at home like we do most Sundays. So I told him I'd call him back.

I went to her, she was already relaxing in her bean bag chair by the fire. She was reading a book and listening to music.

The plan was to watch the game at home and we we're going to have nachos. Have s'mores later when the boys got home.

So I sat next to her and said I know we'd planned on watching the game at home but my buddy got suite tickets last minute and wanted us to come.

Do you want to go dad

I want to do what ever you want

She was quiet for a few minutes.

Does Joel want to go.

I haven't asked him yet


Dad, I just started my book.

It's ok we'll just watch it at home. I wasn't going to push her or try and talk her into going. We've had a really good week and I didn't want to mess it up.

I start to get up and she says Wait Dad, I think we should go. It will be fun.

Yeah I think so too

Can I bring my book.

Of course honey.

Can we get Nachos there?

Who goes to a baseball game and doesn't get nachos?

So we went to the game and we had a great time. I was worried the whole game. Worried she only said yes to make me happy. I was worried it would be to much. The change in the plan, loud music, people cheering. We had nachos, popcorn, cheeseburgers, hotdog and ice cream. She did really well. Being in the suite really helped. We were the only ones in there.

But sometimes I just want it to be easier.

I love her so much but I do wish it was easier. And I hate feeling this way.
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Totally understand wanting life to be easier for your precious daughter.

But I truly believe that these incremental changes, with you there as her safety net, will serve her well in life. They’ll build her self confidence and self esteem which will be so important when she’s ready to set out into the world on her own.

I know that parents wish they could bubble wrap their children and save them from all harm but the greatest gift you can give them is the ability to successfully and joyfully take care of themselves.
Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M
@OlderSometimesWiser thank you. And you are right. I feel bad that I even felt that way. I shouldn't.

But like I said it's hard. It takes a lot of time and effort keeping things on track for her.

And I also feel bad for the boys and Joel. I don't want them to think everything is always about her, what she wants, what she needs. That right now we can never be that family that is spur of the moment.
@Cigarguy101 Life is always gonna be a work in progress my friend.

And you really have to give yourself more credit in terms of being sensitive to the needs of everyone in the family.

Hmm…… I could be mistaken but wasn’t it you who just went on that scary as hell Ferris Wheel for the sole purpose of making a certain tiny tornado happy? 🤔🙂
Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M
@Cigarguy101 lol yes I did because I didn't want to let him down. We was so excited to ride it with it
@Cigarguy101 You’re a terrific father, don’t ever forget it! And if you do, I’ll remind you. Because I’m annoying like that.