No offense and I’m not trying to be rude, but how come most autistic people lack picking up social cues or listen well?

It’s very annoying to have to keep explaining to them every goddamn detail and they just DON’T GET IT! Like one time I was telling my cousin how much pain she caused and tension, she talks over me and says, “Like you get angry. I always feel that was.”
I had to repeat myself. I explain that she hurt our feelings and doesn’t always see the point and she ignores our words. She said some other random junk. I got frustrated and said, “(Her name!) Did you hear what is JUST SAID TO YOU? I am talking to you! I said that when you’re not direct with us, buttering up works and last causing tension with us when you’re not direct, it hurts us and you’re getting angry at us for not getting when you have the inability to be direct and honest. You don’t listen well. Also pushing everyone’s boundaries! No wonder people can’t stand your ass. We’re not just telling you for no reason, we tell you because it’s important things you need to understand. LISTEN before you say shit.”
I’m also sick of people letting people with disabilities get away with their crap and rudeness.
She would criticize a lot of things when she does it herself.