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Why do people ask autistic people stupid ass questions?

What kind of stupid question is that?

One of my aunts asked me the most stupidest questions. “Do you have any friend?”

I was like, “Of course I have friends. You think I’m a LONLEY PERSON?!”

She said, “You don’t need to yell. I just asked you a simple question do you have to go ballistic with me. I asked you because not a lot of autistic people have friends it’s hard for them to clear so that’s why I asked you. You respect me!”

My neighbor son asked me the same question. I got annoyed and growled. He scold at me, “MY GOD would you JUST ANSWER?!”

I gave him the same answer I gave my aunt. He said, “You need to stop getting mad when someone asks you a question. I hate when you have an ugly attitude. You better fix yourself young lady!!! I’m not putting up with it!”

I really don’t like my neighbor at all. He’s mean to me.

People keep asking me the stupid questions like, “Do you even know what a TRUE friend is? You obviously don’t because you’re too quick calling people your friends when you JUST met them. A friend is sometimes you hang out with EVERYDAY and calls you to see how you doing.” Like I don’t know what a friend is? Even my own father once asked me that question. If you tell a 5 year old that, then that’s normal but SERIOUSLY AN 18 year old?! I’m not stupid! Autism people aren’t naive and clueless.
JakeeB · M
Obviously what they're saying is offensive, but you need to work on your reactions to people. Because if you overreact to everything they say, or start yelling and going off, you're just proving their point and making them believe that you ARE impulsive and childish. A lot of the time they may be asking if you have friends largely based on how you treat people, and also factoring in the fact that that may have something to do with autism, which makes it harder to get on with other people socially. If you fight with your friends a lot, get kicked out of friend groups, cosntantly rant about your friends, then I think its fair that they would wonder. It's just a fact that autistic people often struggle with making friends- that's one of the bigger indicators of autism.
I think you should step back, look at what they know about your friend group- because just based on what you post on here, you DO seem to struggle some with getting on well with your friends. I would assume what theyre aksing comes from a place of genuine concern, But they should definitely be kinder in how they word it.
Msp940 · 41-45, M
I understand the frustrations of being asked loaded questions like this one. The underlying time is that they don't expect you to have any friends. It's taking down to you. However, there are better ways of dealing with people like that. Answer politely and then ask them the same offensive question with the same tone. Watch as they realize how bad it is on the reviving end. It has to be done calmly or the message is lost in the emotion.

 
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