Be honest, do you think most autistic people are very blind about friend if they are being fake or not?
My late dad would warn me so many times that not everyone is my friend and I’m the kind of person that will be FRIENDS WITH EVERYONE. I hate when they bring it up. It makes me feel stupid. I am autistic not stupid. My older brother said, “No it doesn’t work that way. You can’t meet someone and just expect them to be your friends. It takes a while, even YEARS to consider them a friend but they may not be who you think they are. You gotta watch out and LISTEN because you don’t listen well. Plus you’re always getting yourself into trouble. At least it isn’t legal problems because you know better.”
My older sister said, “Just like those girls you hung out with. Dad tried to warn you about them and how….you know what, you’re an adult so I can say it…..BITCHY those girls are and they looked jealous of you hand since you’re the “nice” girl and doing well for yourself, they’re jealous and wants to bring you down. You’re just too stubborn to listen and it took you almost two years to finally realize that.”
Then dad said, “Also another girl wanted you to do something illegal. You call THAT a friend? Show me a nasty look behind your back too. You may not think that I’ve seen it. Your best friends were right. Listen to them and you better listen to us.”
I started to say, “Well I was trying to read them but -“
My dad cut me off and shoot at me quickly, “See and that’s another problem with you. You DON’T READ PEOPLE. That’s something you always fail to do. You don’t read people that. You need to start being more like us (my name)!”
My family knows I’m autistic and I’m this “nice” girl that would please people. They know I’m easily manipulated and I get pushed around some relatives took advantage of me. One of my aunts bluntly told me I’m very naive and I believed everything her boyfriend said I loaned him money. She said he lied to me and can’t believe I didn’t see that! No wonder I still lived at home (this was before my dad passed).
Why did I have to be autistic?
My older sister said, “Just like those girls you hung out with. Dad tried to warn you about them and how….you know what, you’re an adult so I can say it…..BITCHY those girls are and they looked jealous of you hand since you’re the “nice” girl and doing well for yourself, they’re jealous and wants to bring you down. You’re just too stubborn to listen and it took you almost two years to finally realize that.”
Then dad said, “Also another girl wanted you to do something illegal. You call THAT a friend? Show me a nasty look behind your back too. You may not think that I’ve seen it. Your best friends were right. Listen to them and you better listen to us.”
I started to say, “Well I was trying to read them but -“
My dad cut me off and shoot at me quickly, “See and that’s another problem with you. You DON’T READ PEOPLE. That’s something you always fail to do. You don’t read people that. You need to start being more like us (my name)!”
My family knows I’m autistic and I’m this “nice” girl that would please people. They know I’m easily manipulated and I get pushed around some relatives took advantage of me. One of my aunts bluntly told me I’m very naive and I believed everything her boyfriend said I loaned him money. She said he lied to me and can’t believe I didn’t see that! No wonder I still lived at home (this was before my dad passed).
Why did I have to be autistic?
22-25, F
